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Deal with toxic manager when you can't quit
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I agree with most of the answers here. In particular, quitting is always an option, be job hunting already, and stop caring about what the manager is saying (except, obviously, that which is necessary ...

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How to deal with a client who has little idea what his employees are doing?
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This first paragraph is in accord with Kate Gregory's answer. In the first case, not informing the person who is actually able to authorize billing seems like a good way to set yourself up for ...

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How to deal with a developer that has poor skills but with whom I get on well?
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Your company is not paying you to be a pal. Implicit in Joe Strazzere's comment is that being "both" a pal and a Team Lead is not an option in this case. You should be honest, since you should ...

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What to say instead of "calm down" if you see the other person getting angry during the discussion?
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There are already some good answers. In particular I agree with the advice to arrange for a break, but I want to spend some time on why telling someone on the opposite side of an argument to "calm ...

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Is raising many questions and concerns after an interview a bad sign for an employer?
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An important question here is: do any of the question you want to ask have a non-negligible probability of changing your decision to accept? It sounds like they might, but if not then the decision ...

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Is it acceptable to lie to an employer if it means bridges won't be burned?
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Don't lie. Because why would you? Are you going to lie every time you take a different offer? If you do short-term contract work, it's just going to be assumed that you are working somewhere else ...

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How to find out why a company has an odd hiring pattern
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If you are otherwise interested in the job, you can just apply and ask in the interview, if you don't experience the reason beforehand. For software developers, which is what it sounds like you're ...

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Is it appropriate to contact companies for a high school internship?
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I was going to add this as a comment to dwjohnston's answer which I completely agree with. So first off: yes, absolutely do this. What I want to add is what it looks like from the other side. In my ...

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Is it appropriate to privately tell a superior that they acted rudely?
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If you are one of the three, then it's definitely not inappropriate, but it's up to you whether you want to do it or not. Presumably you view this superior as somewhat reasonable in the sense of 1) ...

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