DaveG
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How do you deal with a colleague who is sharing information with you on a delayed basis?
4 votes

I'm going to take a somewhat different viewpoint here, because I've been in the role of the colleague who is doing the support. In some cases I'd be bombarded with questions about problems and error ...

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Senior employee of my team understood my email as an order and didn't like it
62 votes

Look at this from his point of view. He's a new member of a team. A few days before a project that he didn't work on is scheduled to be delivered, you send a message that this project's readiness is ...

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Politely explain new potential employeer I'd like 25 day leave within close to first year of joining
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12 votes

I had an somewhat similar issue at my last job, in that I had a one week vacation already planned for my start month. When my employer issued me an offer I said that I was going to need that week of ...

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How to repeat yourself without being condescending
178 votes

By saying things like "Again" or "As we discussed" you are putting the onus of the misunderstanding on the listener. You are simply repeating the explanation that presumably the ...

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Hired as a junior, but I am not one - how to address this in the Performance Review?
18 votes

You're approaching it from the wrong angle. Instead of saying "I've done x, y z, don't I deserve a better title", try "Here are my accomplishments. What are the requirements for a ...

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Client doesn't want to pay a project because I used a code generator
11 votes

No, the customer does not have a point, and no, you haven't done anything wrong. You delivered the product the customer requested at the price that the customer thought was reasonable. How you ...

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What's an effective way to speak slower and more clearly, after being told that I speak too fast?
7 votes

You don't have to consciously try to slow down. What you have to do is interact with the people you are talking to, instead of just talking. As you make points in your talk, look at the listeners....

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New manager unapproved PTO my old manager approved, because of a conference at the same time that's now a "condition of my employment here"
267 votes

If in your first interaction with your new manager, that manager threatens to fire you for not cancelling an already approved PTO just to attend a conference, you clearly need to establish that you ...

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Job is not exactly what I expected, I'm bored
4 votes

At this point if things are running smoothly your manager doesn't have any reason to change things. What you should do as you read code and fix bugs is look for opportunities for improving the ...

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Should a staff canteen allow using their cutlery without buying food?
3 votes

If this is a "canteen" or lunchroom specifically for your company, this is indeed odd behavior. Presumably just be being an employee, you are allowed to be in the canteen. The whole purpose of the ...

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Should I bring design diagrams to a software developer interview?
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10 votes

This sounds like a bad idea. Even if your current employer for some reason knows you are interviewing and is ok with you bringing design documents on an interview, having those documents is going to ...

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Manager pushing acting manager aside when she is about to go on maternity leave when the pregnancy is a secret
17 votes

Telling the boss that someone is pregnant and therefore shouldn't get an assignment is a bad, bad, BAD idea. Either the boss will act on it, in which case Bekkie is part of something that is probably ...

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How do you respond to a colleague from another team when they're wrongly expecting that you'll help them?
28 votes

Ask your manager what he or she wants you to do. Obviously helping out another team is going to take time, particularly if they have an ongoing set of problems. It's going to cut into whatever else ...

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Feeling unproductive in my team and would like to give my manager a plausible reason to change teams
3 votes

I had a similar situation a few years ago, and based on that I'd encourage you to go ahead, talk with your manager, and try to find a team that's a better fit. In my case, the problem was a "team ...

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Workplace intimidation due to child's chronic health condition
86 votes

If you haven't already take a look at the FMLA FAQ. This is the law in the USA so the fact that the company has changed hands doesn't matter. Under qualifying conditions it says "to care for an ...

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Am I overly concerned about a newly hired Senior Developer with low performance?
2 votes

As I started reading, I had some sympathy for the new developer, as I've been in the situation of being new, not doing a lot of commits, not knowing the environment, etc. But the fact that this guy ...

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How to solve this shared resources problem at my workplace?
0 votes

Some people are going to be slobs. Where I work, people are pretty neat, but there are lots of pretty blunt people who enforce via peer pressure. If you don't have that, I'd suggest making it ...

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Asking an interviewer(s) a technical question back when being interviewed
1 votes

It's absolutely a reasonable thing to do, as long as it fits into the discussion of the question the interviewer asked. If you are simply trying to "stump the interviewer" that's not good, but saying ...

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Refusing a business trip of an indefinite length for personal reasons
3 votes

I think you need to look at this as "how can I justify this from a business point of view". It's going to be costly for your business for you to be living in a foreign country for an indefinite ...

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As a mentor, how to interact with the team to adopt my thought processes and suggestions?
1 votes

It sounds like you are positioned essentially outside the team. You are available to consult on technical challenges and to review code, but you aren't working side by side with the team on their ...

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Asked to interview for different position from application
1 votes

It's possible that the company has multiple positions open. Try checking the company's website. Usually there's a section like "employment opportunities" that should have information on open positions,...

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Conference call for interviews - too expensive
7 votes

It's completely reasonable to mention that what they are suggesting for an interview will be very expensive. Suggest a few alternatives (Skype, the company calling you, etc). If they are really ...

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How can I deal with abuse by my boss?
1 votes

Is my boss abusive? Based on the points you made, particularly your boss making vague accusations that have no detail so you can't defend yourself, yes, your boss is abusive. Your boss is saying ...

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Dealing with hostile interviewer - explaining why I left previous job due to bullying
7 votes

If an interviewer insists on asking, it's fine to talk about problems at a previous job. But you should never talk about "bullying". That's a term that has been bandied about way too much, so that ...

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Moved to scrum, now developers are doing just QA
0 votes

As I mentioned in a comment to the original question, I think this is management's way of claiming to do Agile, while actually perpetuating Waterfall. In particular, We're QAing new use-cases ...

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