Meg
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Interview was just a one hour panel. Got an offer the next day; do I accept or is this a red flag?
32 votes

The places where I have worked with a smart, competent, motivated and functional team have typically employed LESS whiteboarding/tests/various interview shenanigans. My own theory on this is that ...

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Manager is asking me to eat breakfast from now on
28 votes

I am fairly certain your boss is not actually trying to require breakfast, and definitely trying to tell you I have noticed that you take an abnormal number of sick days. Giving employees a warning ...

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Was I subtly told to resign?
25 votes

I believe that the message was more like, "We aren't going to be able to restructure every aspect of your work experience to your satisfaction, so if you're serious about these complaints, you should ...

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How to take my pads with me to the toilet subtly?
18 votes

I personally use a small, decorative travel makeup bag that holds my sanitary supplies and some single-use packs of Advil. I fill it at home and take the whole pouch with me to the restroom, so there'...

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Is it normal to be given tasks verbally?
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13 votes

I've frequently experienced this, where tasks are assigned by an offhand comment in an unrelated meeting, or a manager or team lead just walking by and saying, "Hey Meg, do when you have the ...

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How can I pay respect for a recently deceased team member without seeming intrusive?
9 votes

Generally in in US culture the appropriate gesture would be to send something to the immediate family of the team member that passed away. (Card, flowers, charitable donation in the deceased's honor--...

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Reasons for leaving good companies
9 votes

In my field, I am lucky to get a 2% cost of living raise yearly, even with good to excellent performance reviews, but can get a 5-10% raise by switching jobs, even at the same title/level. I value ...

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Potential employers keep telling me my college isn't good enough - is there any way to fix this?
8 votes

I have a hard time imagining how an interview came around to you explaining how your not-ivy education was "very similar to ivy league listings". I feel like something had to have already gone wrong ...

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One of my developers is gaslighting a horrible product owner. The results are great, but I am concerned about risks
6 votes

Your risks are multiple and varied. You could become the next target of Max's machinations if you get on his bad side (or if he decides that he should be the one leading the team, etc.) You could be ...

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What is a polite way to clarify my gender in phone calls?
6 votes

I'm assuming here that these are one-time failures by people you don't know to correctly identify you, and not coworkers calling you incorrectly on a repeated basis or with intentional rudeness. ...

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What types of medical conditions prevent employment on a cruise ship?
2 votes

In general, physicals related to seeking a new job look for some main things: Are you healthy and capable enough to perform job duties, including those that occur only rarely or in emergencies? For ...

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Is it a valid strategy at workplace to select the people you work and comunicate with and avoid the rest?
1 votes

There are, as you suspect, some benefits and some drawbacks to this strategy. Benefits include less time spent in arguing, unwanted small talks, and other unpleasant social interactions. You may have ...

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Sharing sourcecode in informal startup
1 votes

I would say that giving your coworkers access to 'see' and 'tinker with' code is a normal and productive practice in startup environments. Giving anyone (and this goes double for anyone who is not ...

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Should I start working if background check didn't finish?
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I think "listed as a general Computer Programmer, but worked as a more specialized type of computer programmer" is probably not even going to come up as an issue on the background check. I have had ...

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Someone on my team is sending bigoted emails to another member on my team
-2 votes

In addition to sensible answers about involving lawsuits and involving HR in this, I would offer the harassed coworker a transfer to another team or department. This must be -an offer they are free ...

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