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Talk to your manager or HR. If they're decent, they should quickly realise how problematic these kinds of remarks are and put a stop to them while shielding you from any fall-out. Whether they're decent is something you'll have to decide. HR in particular should be trained to spot sexism like this and intermediately make the connection with the legal and morale issues that they can cause. Given you're one of the only women there, it's very obvious that the complaint will come from you and while you should be protected from retaliation by your manager/HR (they are usually even legally required to), that doesn't always happen. You'll have to make a judgement call on that I'm afraid.

Talk to your manager or HR. If they're decent, they should quickly realise how problematic these kinds of remarks are and put a stop to them while shielding you from any fall-out. Whether they're decent is something you'll have to decide. HR in particular should be trained to spot sexism like this and immediately make the connection with the legal and moral issues that they can cause. Given you're one of the only women there, it's probably going to be obvious that the complaint will come from you. While you should be protected from retaliation by your manager or HR, and they are often legally required to do so, that doesn't always happen. You'll have to make a judgement call on the risk of that.

###Say something in the moment.

• Hey, can you please not comment on what I choose to wear?

 
• That's really inappropriate.

 
• I'm really not looking for fashion/style advice.

###Say something to him in private

###Escalate

###Or do nothing

Say something in the moment.

• Hey, can you please not comment on what I choose to wear?

• That's really inappropriate.

• I'm really not looking for fashion/style advice.

Say something to him in private

Escalate

Or do nothing

Talk to your manager or HR. If they're decent, they should quickly realise how problematic these kinds of remarks are and put a stop to them while shielding you from any fall-out. Whether they're decent is something you'll have to decide. HR in particular should be trained to spot sexism like this and intermediately make the connection with the legal and morale issues that they can cause. Given you're one of the only women there, it's very obvious that the complain will come from you and while you should be protected from retaliation by your manager/HR (they are usually even legally required to), that doesn't always happen. You'll have to make a judgement call on that I'm afraid.

As a final option, you could consider simply doing nothing. Mentally roll your eyes whenever you get such a comment and accept that some people are rude and immature. In decent offices this guy's actions will very quickly reflect extremely poorly on him and your refusal to engage him will reflet well on you. In offices that have skewed ideas on gender such as the typical "boy's clubs" this likely won't work and it's also not an option if this behaviour translates into other areas of your work such as your performance, ability to communicate with this person/team or your evaluation. But for some people this could be a reasonable approach to the problem.

Talk to your manager or HR. If they're decent, they should quickly realise how problematic these kinds of remarks are and put a stop to them while shielding you from any fall-out. Whether they're decent is something you'll have to decide. HR in particular should be trained to spot sexism like this and intermediately make the connection with the legal and morale issues that they can cause. Given you're one of the only women there, it's very obvious that the complaint will come from you and while you should be protected from retaliation by your manager/HR (they are usually even legally required to), that doesn't always happen. You'll have to make a judgement call on that I'm afraid.

As a final option, you could consider simply doing nothing. Mentally roll your eyes whenever you get such a comment and accept that some people are rude and immature. In decent offices this guy's actions will very quickly reflect extremely poorly on him and your refusal to engage him will reflect well on you. In offices that have skewed ideas on gender such as the typical "boy's clubs" this likely won't work and it's also not an option if this behaviour translates into other areas of your work such as your performance, ability to communicate with this person/team or your evaluation. But for some people this could be a reasonable approach to the problem.