Timeline for Inappropriate touching by a colleague
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| Jul 3 at 14:56 | comment | added | Edwin Buck |
The problem with some (many?) guys is that they consider no reaction is a good reaction. They think if you don't say no this means yes. Well, in defense of guys, that's how it works. No woman says, "you casually made a pass at me, YES, YES!" They expect men to lead in courtship, and then they expect to choose if they permit it to continue. No means no, but silence means yes, unless you make it abundantly clear through body language. Next time, she should grasp his wrist of the "touching" hand, remove it from her, and say "Please, never do that again." Then it will likely be over.
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| Nov 8, 2018 at 8:56 | comment | added | Edgar | @nl-x: I read somewhere that scratching the eyes out (or something similar) is a criminal offence, at least in some countries. So I guess that is not a good idea if you are not already in a bad fight. | |
| Nov 7, 2018 at 21:01 | comment | added | nl-x | @Edgar No! Definitively don’t ever slap. Don’t resort to violence. He might respond in violence and he might end up being stronger. Even if he touches your breasts. Scream! Yell for help! Run away! Then call HR and the police. But don’t give him the opportunity to make it worse, by physically fighting him. (If he tries to prevent you from escaping, then violence might be the smart thing to do. But even then, don’t slap him. Scratch his eyes out with your keys, or something similar, and get the hell out of there.) | |
| Nov 2, 2018 at 0:37 | comment | added | gnasher729 | @Edgar If I remember right then the slapping has happened to Trump. | |
| Feb 27, 2018 at 0:10 | comment | added | Edgar | @Ramhound: I guess you remember the infamous Trump "grab her by the p...". In my opinion there are about two possible reactions to that. Option a is a slap in the face and option b is a kick to where it hurts. And I don't think any employer would dare to fire a woman who would react like that. | |
| Feb 26, 2018 at 16:38 | comment | added | Donald | Physical violence in the workplace isn't ever justified, nor is harassment of any form, slapping even the harasser can be grounds for both individuals being released. | |
| Feb 26, 2018 at 9:43 | comment | added | Edgar | @Joker28322: I guess it depends a lot on what the guy does. In the above case I also think slapping him would be too much. But if he or another guy would i.e. touch her bum or breasts then then I think slapping him would be appropriate. | |
| Feb 26, 2018 at 5:58 | comment | added | Ian Parry | Slapping him in the face will just give him an opportunity to turn it around and make OP look like the aggressor. I strongly recommend against doing this. | |
| Feb 25, 2018 at 12:01 | history | answered | Edgar | CC BY-SA 3.0 |