Timeline for My colleague treats me like he's my boss, yet we're on the same level
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| Sep 2, 2019 at 16:45 | comment | added | 520 says Reinstate Monica | @dan-klasson my point hinges on the context that OP has quickly put together some code to put a point across, and OP's co-worker is simply railroading OP by trying to apply professional standards against a quick mockup. In an actual programming discussion, it's a good question to ask. In another kind of meeting where the code is but a sideshow, it takes the conversation off-track. 'Because it works', or even 'Because it works for the purpose of this demonstration' shuts down the railroading attempt and keeps the conversation on-topic. | |
| Sep 2, 2019 at 16:09 | comment | added | dan-klasson | @11684 I speak fluent sarcasm. You're not making any sense. | |
| Sep 2, 2019 at 15:43 | comment | added | 11684 | @dan-klasson No, I am not contradicting myself. I meant to imply you might have a problem recognising sarcasm since with the right tone it should be abundantly clear to all others present. | |
| Sep 2, 2019 at 8:44 | comment | added | dan-klasson | @11684 I didn't get his point either. If someone says "because it works" in a programming context. All he's doing is making a fool of himself. That person is essentially setting himself up as being labeled an idiot. What would normally follow, in that context, is an explanation of why "it works" is not good enough. Effectively proving the insufferable co-worker right. And you're contradicting yourself. You want the receiver to understand you, yet you also say it's the receiver's fault for not understanding when you're not being clear. | |
| Sep 2, 2019 at 8:14 | comment | added | 11684 | @dan-klasson Please refer to 520’s comment who formulated my point much better than I could. Furthermore, if you are unable to conclude something that does not make any sense to you at all is not to be taken seriously regardless of tone I would say that indicates an interpretation problem with the receiver, not a communication problem with the sender. | |
| Sep 2, 2019 at 6:39 | comment | added | dan-klasson | @11684 If someone said that to me I wouldn't think it's sarcasm, regardless of the tone. It just doesn't make any sense to me as a programmer. | |
| Sep 1, 2019 at 19:44 | comment | added | 520 says Reinstate Monica | @dan-klasson it's a perfectly valid answer in this context of dealing with an insufferable co-worker who asks the question not out of any curiosity, or indeed any professional reason, but merely to put OP on the spot. Context is key. | |
| Aug 31, 2019 at 9:52 | comment | added | 11684 | @dan-klasson It's a terrible thing to believe. When trying to evade a question it's a great option (because presumably no-one will think you believe it – tone helps here too). | |
| Aug 31, 2019 at 4:34 | comment | added | dan-klasson | Because it works is a terrible thing to say though. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 18:21 | comment | added | computercarguy | In order to make this work, the OP absolutely needs to talk to their boss first. It doesn't matter how busy the boss is, they need to make their case first. They also need to include how long it's been going on, with name dropping people who've seen it happen. This way, when the bully talks to the manager about having it done to them, there will be push back on the bully, not the OP. Without first talking to the boss, the OP becomes the "bad guy" instead of the bully, because this is how bullies work. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 10:09 | history | edited | 520 says Reinstate Monica | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Aug 30, 2019 at 10:03 | history | answered | 520 says Reinstate Monica | CC BY-SA 4.0 |