Timeline for How to deal with Coworker Leering at another
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| Feb 1, 2020 at 18:43 | comment | added | Rick | Agree, I will make a formal discussion with the guy. And will not take any actions other than the meeting itself. I believe this will solve the issue, if not i will include the company owner in this and make it official | |
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| Jan 31, 2020 at 15:31 | comment | added | Aida Paul | @Borgh Those were not two independent instances of someone pointing it out though, they came together. Not to diminish their complaints value at all, but it's a different thing if two people come together to complain, or two unrelated people report the same issue. | |
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| Jan 31, 2020 at 15:11 | comment | added | Stephan Branczyk | And the same goes if the guy has some vision problems. Some people can't see past a few feet ahead of them. Others can't recognize faces. And if it's just a misunderstanding, this needs to be communicated quickly to everyone in the office. | |
| Jan 31, 2020 at 15:07 | comment | added | Stephan Branczyk | @quarague, He needs to meet with the guy. By formal, I mean that the meeting needs to have its agenda recorded. And no, I completely disagree. Having such a meeting wouldn't mean he did anything wrong, but it would mean that he'd be put on notice. If it were me for instance and anyone accused me of leering, I would want to know about it. For instance, it would make me think twice about hanging out near one of their desks or asking one out to lunch. And if my work allowed it, I would keep those two a wide berth, or maybe I'd ask a trusted witness to accompany me when speaking to one of them. | |
| Jan 31, 2020 at 14:55 | comment | added | lambshaanxy | If you have no formal HR or managerial powers over this employee, you can't really formally do anything. Put what you've concluded in writing and make it HR and the manager's problem. | |
| Jan 31, 2020 at 11:30 | comment | added | Borgh | @quarague but he did something wrong? maybe/hopefully not intentionally but two people credibly pointed at him as "the leering guy". So at this point a formal meeting would be proportional I think. Depending on how he reacts nothing more than a serious talk needs to come from it but i'd say that by now there is no particular reason to stay informal. | |
| Jan 31, 2020 at 9:42 | comment | added | quarague | If you set up a 'formal private meeting' you already decided beforehand that the guy did something wrong and needs to change his behavior. I don't think this is warranted at this stage. Of course OP should talk to the guy, and in private but doing this in an informal way looks a lot more appropriate to me. | |
| Jan 31, 2020 at 8:45 | comment | added | Aida Paul | The very first step is to talk to the guy, so I mostly agree with this answer. The OP only has claims from two female employees, so has to talk to the guy now, explain the complains (without saying that he did it, just that it was complained about), hear what the guy has to say and that should be the end of it unless it comes back again. | |
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| Jan 31, 2020 at 0:36 | comment | added | Rick | Well, I believe that the purpose of sending the email is to alert the guy that someone is noticing his behavior, if this does not handle the situation, then a formal private meeting with the guy is my what i will do. | |
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| Jan 31, 2020 at 0:08 | history | answered | Stephan Branczyk | CC BY-SA 4.0 |