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I'm working as a developer/database admin and, until a few days ago, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated to my job.
• in meetings he sometimes makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time at the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.

Edit: thanks for all your comments and answers.

What exactly is the boss? Manager? Company owner?

it's the CEO

Are any of your band’s songs objectionable?

I guess yes, they are mainly about alcool, sex ect.. but noting to serious

You are not punk or metalhead if you are thinking this way. Write a dedicated song.

That's a great idea

What I'm going to do  :

I'll stop to work harder, this was a mistake.

Then I'll confort my boss on this change of behavior. Depending on the reason that he gives to me, I'll stay or start looking for another job.

I'm working as a developer/database admin and, until a few days ago, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated to my job.
• in meetings he sometimes makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time at the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.

Edit: thanks for all your comments and answers.

What exactly is the boss? Manager? Company owner?

it's the CEO

Are any of your band’s songs objectionable?

I guess yes, they are mainly about alcohol, sex etc.. but nothing to serious

You are not punk or metalhead if you are thinking this way. Write a dedicated song.

That's a great idea.

What I'm going to do:

I'll stop working harder, this was a mistake.

Then I'll confront my boss on this change of behavior. Depending on the reason that he gives to me, I'll stay or start looking for another job.

I'm working as a developer/database admin and, until a few days ago, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated to my job.
• in meetings he sometimes makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time at the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.

I'm working as a developer/database admin and, until a few days ago, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated to my job.
• in meetings he sometimes makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time at the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.

Edit: thanks for all your comments and answers.

What exactly is the boss? Manager? Company owner?

it's the CEO

Are any of your band’s songs objectionable?

I guess yes, they are mainly about alcool, sex ect.. but noting to serious

You are not punk or metalhead if you are thinking this way. Write a dedicated song.

That's a great idea

What I'm going to do :

I'll stop to work harder, this was a mistake.

Then I'll confort my boss on this change of behavior. Depending on the reason that he gives to me, I'll stay or start looking for another job.

I'm working as a developer/database admin and since a few days, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated with my job.
• in meetings he, sometimes, makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time a the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.

I'm working as a developer/database admin and, until a few days ago, everything was great working with my boss (workload was fine, we trusted each other, meetings were shorts and constructive, communication was on point...).

But a few days ago, he found out that I was a singer in a metal/punk band, and he immediately changed behavior toward me:

• he gives me a lot of work that is unrelated to my job.
• in meetings he sometimes makes some inappropriate comments like "I wish that you worked as hard as you sing" or "this task will be harder than screaming in a microphone."
• he does not want to talk with me, he'll always find a good reason to flee the discussion ("I have a meeting starting" or "I don't have time at the moment" ...), we only talk by mail now.
• he refused my vacation for this summer ...

He was very happy with my work during annual evaluation (a month ago).

I was happy with my job prior to the "discovery", but now I don't enjoy it anymore. Of course, I will never stop singing with my band.

What I'm trying to do is to work harder to prove him that I'm a good employee and that my hobby doesn't affect my work, but I think that's a bit unfair.

How can I get back to the old relationship with my boss? I'm thinking of sending him a mail with a meeting invite to force him to have a talk with me, but I don't know what to tell him.