Timeline for What options exist for helping women employees proactively deal with inappropriate behavior in a primarily-male company?
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| Apr 17, 2021 at 21:47 | vote | accept | FriendlyTumbleweed | ||
| Apr 14, 2021 at 7:46 | comment | added | puck | ... could easily become very subjective and also unfair. Looking for general emergency plans isn't bad in general but it depends on how you do that. Imagine someone says (or at least somehow expresses to you) "There was nothing yet but I expect trouble to come often and from many colleagues, so tell me who is a bad guy and what should I do if X or Y or Z happens?". What would you feel? Such precautions could make this woman come across as feminist who sees and expects problems everywhere and behind every man. Btw. thank you and +1 for asking, this shows how different people can think and feel. | |
| Apr 14, 2021 at 7:45 | comment | added | puck | @FriendlyTumbleweed To me it appeared as if you tried to secure all possible situations in advance. I wasn't sure where that thought came from so I read your question again to identify such passages. Here they are. "situations in which another's behavior is inappropriate" is a general phrase relating to no concrete incident that really has happened. That's like "no idea what will come, but I'm sure things will come from everywhere and everyone". "she doesn't have any way of knowing ... in advance." - this as well. Such "knowledge" coming from others without experiencing on one's own ... | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 17:21 | comment | added | FriendlyTumbleweed | @puck I can definitively say that she and I discussed this concern at length and are not interested in anything that results in gossip or witch hunts. I'm confident that both she and I can understand that a reasonable and effective way to be proactive (and which does not have unwanted side effects) may not be possible. Is there something I should edit into my post to make this more clear? | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 9:20 | comment | added | Stephan Branczyk | While I can't pretend to know what women go through, as a man, I do have eyes and ears, and it's not like other men make their intentions/personality type a huge secret. Personally, I can tell you who among us will get needy, jealous, aggressive, handsy, inappropriate when drunk, etc. Now, I may not be direct about it, but if the questions are phrased carefully enough, and if the person asking is willing to read between the lines of my answers, and if that person is willing to ask multiple men separately (that aren't trying to hit on her), then she will know exactly who to avoid. | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 8:26 | comment | added | Doliprane | If she needed to have women in her department, she should have told you during the interview. You can't join a male-dominant job and expect to have female friends to chat with... You cannot hire more females in her department just so she can feel safe. I know you want to be helpful, but you have nothing you can help with. Tell her to relax and work normally, and to report right away if someone behaves badly towards her. That's how the system works. For both men and women. She shouldn't expect a different treatment just because she is a woman. HR is there for a reason. | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 8:19 | comment | added | Doliprane | You don't need to know which person is mysoginistic/predatory in advance. Just work normally and if some of them behave in a sexist way, avoid them. If you get harassed or bullied, HR is there for you. You don't need a network of "females" to know which "male" is bad. You'll know by experience. As long as you're keeping everything professional with people, you have nothing to fear. I'm a female in a primary male company, and I think she is overthinking it. You can't solve these issues in advance, you can't control everything. You'll just have to tell HR in case something happens. | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 6:40 | comment | added | puck | People aren't take seriously or have other issues in private life and at work for several reasons, including but not exclusively because they are women. Reading between the lines let me advise to not install all kind of preventive measures because "all men here are harassing". This would create a venemous environment faster than you might imagine. Especially on behalf of your female colleague please address problems when but not before they occur, address exactly what has happened and don't automatically add "because she is a woman and all men are harassing her". | |
| Apr 13, 2021 at 6:25 | answer | added | Zeus | timeline score: 4 | |
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