Timeline for How to deal with colleagues saying they don't need help in public but asking for it in private
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| Apr 29, 2021 at 19:40 | comment | added | Allure | @OwenReynolds I don't consider that an issue, hence the first line of this answer. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 16:31 | comment | added | Owen Reynolds | This seems to ignore the main issue, where Peter seems to be purposely over-promising in front of the bosses then wasting the OP's time later. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 12:37 | comment | added | jrh | @BigMadAndy that context is crucial because it sounds to me that you are personally tasked with getting things done "no matter what" even if it takes more than 8 hours, IMO you are getting ripped off bad unless you have significant stock options in the company (and you believe it's a good investment) and/or will make enough to retire rich like the owners if it takes off. If you are getting loaded up with work like an owner but paid like an employee, and you are expected to do that, you're literally getting paid less per hour, and I would consider looking around for better jobs. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 12:30 | comment | added | jrh | @BigMadAndy IMO that context is crucial, that you're working so many hours, in the question you put "Just for context: I used to be a hard-worker" -- if you're working those kind of hours (for free) you are still a very hard worker. A bit off topic but I'd recommend finding a way to scale back in any way possible. I've been there myself (didn't work less than 70 hours a week for 2 years and did 95 hours a week for 3 months), get comfortable with saying "sorry, I can't do it" and find an industry/job that respects your time, I had to completely change industries and techs but it was worth it. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 7:29 | comment | added | Allure | @BigMadAndy in that case if the boss does not move the task, then you do it with the understanding that your other tasks will be late/lower quality. I don't understand how the boss is letting you work 15 hours/day. All the managers I've worked under have understood that there's only so much work a person can do in a day, and one cannot just arbitrarily give that person more work and still expect them to be able to complete it in time. Even at 12 hours/day when I'm contracted for 8, I'd be looking to leave. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 6:15 | comment | added | BigMadAndy | Your explanation would be more valuable if Peter's and my skill levels were similar. But I dare say I have more experience and expertise. So in the example above, I'm more suited but I don't have time. However, boss couldn't move anything from my tasks to Peter since Peter wouldn't be able to deal with them. So I would get more tasks. "If your primary motivation is the former, then you will come across as selfish" - and if my primary motivation is the latter, I will end up working 15 hours/ day with no extra credit - currently it's "just" 12. I'm paid for 8. | |
| Apr 29, 2021 at 4:59 | history | answered | Allure | CC BY-SA 4.0 |