Timeline for Manager trying too hard to persuade me to stay on team
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| Jan 10, 2022 at 20:08 | comment | added | Dan | @RichardRast I don't think so because the boss never originally asked. I also disagree that this is considered an "exception" considering the OP is moving within his own company... the same company that is setting the policy for remote work. I believe if the boss asked, he would have gotten it. Instead the boss listened to his story and basically lied to him about it being so hard to get. Quitting is not really a sudden urgency because every company should anticipate their employees leaving an at-will situation. | |
| Jan 9, 2022 at 13:57 | comment | added | Stilez | This. They need/want you, but you're now a risk to them. You were willing to go. They didn't care to support your goals until motivated by their own pants being caught down, nothing to do with wanting to support a valued employee. If you mattered that much to them as a person, they'd have acted sooner. I wouldn't trust myself in this teams hands, although best not say so. No need to burn bridges. But go, as this answer says. And regarding Richard Rast's comment, I get it but disagree. Team mgmt as a whole (including his manager) is the issue, and as a whole, it didn't care to act. | |
| Jan 8, 2022 at 23:00 | comment | added | berry120 | Yup, absolutely. Working remotely is a make or break deal for many - and if any boss says "no" to this, then similar to a salary negotiation, they know there's a decent chance that employee could be looking elsewhere, especially if there's other teams in the same company working fully remote (meaning it can't have come from that high up, or it'd be a unanimous rule company-wide, which it clearly isn't.) It sounds from the wording of the question that the boss didn't try too hard to get the exception until it was too late, but regardless, it doesn't change the outcome of the situation now. | |
| Jan 8, 2022 at 17:24 | comment | added | Jon Bentley | I concur with @RichardRast's comment. It isn't (necessarily) "last time when you asked, I didn't really check into it because I chose not to". It could equally be "last time when you asked, we said no because the stakes were much lower than they are now", which is completely normal human behaviour and a feature of most negotiating processes. | |
| Jan 8, 2022 at 3:47 | comment | added | Richard Rast | Disagree with the tone. This to me sounds like your manager wasn't able to sell the exception to their boss. Armed with "[employee] is going to leave the team if I don't get this exception," suddenly the exception is easier to get. That's not surprising; in fact that sounds super normal to me. Should you still leave? Probably. But I don't see anything unethical or dubious here, just the normal "urgency drives results" behavior you see in every organization on the planet. | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 18:50 | history | answered | Dan | CC BY-SA 4.0 |