Timeline for How can I tell my boss the required uniform makes me personally uncomfortable?
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| Nov 7, 2022 at 16:46 | comment | added | user77853 | Why can't OP buy his own white shirt with dark pants and dark blazer? There's no cost to the manager. If the manager doesn't like that then go to the regional manager, or company owner and mention sexual harassment. I've never heard of a case like this and that makes it a good question with very good answers and comments. | |
| Sep 21, 2019 at 18:38 | comment | added | Vality | While a business can insist on a uniform I would say given the manager is the opposite gender to you and specifically joked(?) About up looking androgynous this could easily be sexual harassment. I would contact the Citizens Advice Bureau and tell them (or better record in writing) exactly what your manager is demanding. I expect this may quickly end up with a workplace rights and harassment ombudsman or even court if you complain. | |
| Sep 21, 2019 at 13:08 | comment | added | Helena | Is there a written version of the dress code? | |
| Nov 17, 2016 at 13:27 | comment | added | MissMonicaE | @tempusfugit I don't see why that would be considered harassment | |
| Nov 17, 2016 at 10:44 | answer | added | Weckar E. | timeline score: 1 | |
| May 13, 2016 at 13:35 | history | edited | Kate Gregory |
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| May 14, 2015 at 16:15 | answer | added | HillWithSmallFields | timeline score: 2 | |
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| S Aug 7, 2014 at 9:41 | history | suggested | user1023 |
added [gender] tag: the question is about gender issues and violating gender identity in workspace
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| Aug 6, 2014 at 15:30 | comment | added | tempusfugit | Not related, but I was just wondering, if it was a female being forced to wear clothes she is not comfortable in, in a male-majority work place. That would have been clearly harassment. So is this. | |
| Aug 6, 2014 at 15:09 | comment | added | Donald | I almost can't believe this question. I am not sure who this manager/owner thinks they are but asking a male employee to wear a blouse is crossing a line. I am not sure the reason a cream colored long sleeved shirt isn't be used. | |
| Aug 6, 2014 at 14:58 | answer | added | user22432 | timeline score: 10 | |
| Aug 6, 2014 at 14:39 | history | edited | jmort253 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Feb 3, 2014 at 10:35 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/#!/StackWorkplace/status/430288363800002560 | ||
| Jan 27, 2014 at 13:54 | answer | added | Christian | timeline score: 2 | |
| Jan 24, 2014 at 16:56 | answer | added | grasshopper | timeline score: 2 | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 22:58 | comment | added | Jamie L | To keep the peace I wore the uniform today and didn't get any comments from guests or staff and my manager wants me to continue wearing from now on. Should i just accept as many on here have advised | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 20:53 | comment | added | IDrinkandIKnowThings | @LegoStormtroopr - It is irrelevant how the uniform appears, It makes the OP uncomfortable. The op is asking for help in navigating the workplace in addressing this issue. That is the core mission of this SE. | |
| Jan 22, 2014 at 20:52 | comment | added | IDrinkandIKnowThings | If this gets closed I will be voting to reopen. This is a good question about navigating the workplace. | |
| Jan 21, 2014 at 15:40 | history | edited | Kate Gregory | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jan 21, 2014 at 10:38 | comment | added | starsplusplus |
She said I shouldn't worry as I am small for my age and a little androgynous. Whether the OP is correct in his opinion that it's a girly uniform or not, "You look like a girl anyway" is not an acceptable response to that!
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| Jan 21, 2014 at 2:31 | answer | added | Anniepoo | timeline score: 23 | |
| Jan 21, 2014 at 1:00 | comment | added | Relaxed | Well, how it's perceived is obviously cultural and we only have one particular description of the situation but I don't see how it makes any of the answers “speculative”. After all, the OP did not ask whether the uniform really is feminine but what can be done if it is. | |
| Jan 20, 2014 at 21:54 | answer | added | nohat | timeline score: 29 | |
| Jan 20, 2014 at 18:34 | comment | added | GrandmasterB | In addition to it making you feel uncomfortable, it may make some of the guests feel uncomfortable as well. Seems like a bad business decision all around. | |
| Jan 20, 2014 at 16:37 | comment | added | Monica Cellio | @JoeStrazzere while I might not hesitate to give that advice to a more seasoned worker, I think some sensitivity to a teenager is appropriate. It's sad that the employer won't allow modifications to this uniform, and "you can get away with it because you don't look like a guy anyway" (that seems to be the subtext, according to this post) is pretty oblivious. | |
| Jan 20, 2014 at 4:22 | comment | added | Preet Sangha | Also why are they not supplying the trousers if it's part of the uniform? Do the women have to supply parts of their uniform? | |
| Jan 20, 2014 at 4:16 | answer | added | user9158 | timeline score: 15 | |
| Jan 19, 2014 at 20:15 | history | edited | jmort253 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| S Jan 19, 2014 at 17:41 | history | edited | Kate Gregory | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| S Jan 19, 2014 at 17:41 | history | suggested | Neuromancer | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jan 19, 2014 at 14:29 | review | Close votes | |||
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| Jan 19, 2014 at 13:06 | answer | added | Ricketyship | timeline score: 58 | |
| Jan 19, 2014 at 12:48 | answer | added | geometrikal | timeline score: 18 | |
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| Jan 19, 2014 at 11:32 | history | asked | Jamie L | CC BY-SA 3.0 |