Timeline for Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility
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| Oct 2, 2022 at 23:54 | history | edited | the1.9gpaProgrammer | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Sep 29, 2022 at 22:29 | comment | added | bob | This answer doesn't fully address the question. OP specifically asks "How can I bring this up without sounding like I am making a big fuss out of assisting with a trivial task?", and there are plenty of answers here that gives ways to do that. It's not really fair to assume we know OP's mental state. We should stick to answering the question that was asked. | |
| Sep 29, 2022 at 4:07 | history | edited | the1.9gpaProgrammer | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Sep 29, 2022 at 3:59 | comment | added | the1.9gpaProgrammer | @Corrodias I think the OP will continue this behavior NO MATTER WHAT WE RECOMMEND as frankly it is the least confrontational way to deal with the situation... I.E. go to work and hope every day that this individual does not ask you to do too many things.. | |
| Sep 29, 2022 at 3:57 | comment | added | the1.9gpaProgrammer | @Corrodias Telling a non confrontational person to stick up for themselves or say no is like telling someone thats bad at golf to "Just hit the ball in the middle of the face"...Don't you think the OP has thought of just saying no in creative ways? This is coming from a person who was previously very non confrontational... Yes long term stick up for yourself.. but were not writing a self help book here.. short term just don't reply (even though not replying is STILL confrontational to a non confrontational person). | |
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| Sep 27, 2022 at 15:41 | comment | added | Corrodias | If the asker was comfortable just saying no, then the question would not have been asked, it's true. But the best answers to the question, in my opinion, are the ones that instruct them to get comfortable saying no. That's the only, good solution, here. If we are to assume that's impossible, their only, other, mentally healthy solutions are to get comfortable being this coworker's gopher or to quit. | |
| Sep 27, 2022 at 15:35 | history | edited | the1.9gpaProgrammer | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Sep 27, 2022 at 15:10 | comment | added | NotThatGuy | It would be more like "Person Y frequently ignores things I ask them via chat". It would be very easy for you to come across as the bad guy based on that even if they just tell the truth about what sorts of things they ask you. But if you tell them to do it themselves, it would be much less likely that anyone would take their complaints about you seriously, unless they lie (which would be a different problem). | |
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| Sep 27, 2022 at 14:55 | history | edited | the1.9gpaProgrammer | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Sep 27, 2022 at 14:53 | comment | added | the1.9gpaProgrammer | @NotThatGuy How? "Person Y didn't reply to my request to go get a file for me!" what would your boss say? This is not OP's superior...this is a fellow co worker.. If the OP didn't reply the individual asking would probably think.. "uggh I'll just do it myself"... | |
| Sep 27, 2022 at 14:39 | comment | added | NotThatGuy | Ignoring questions and requests from your coworkers seems like a good way to turn things into bigger issues than they need to be, and to get yourself a warning from your boss. You need to stand up for yourself, not just ignore the problem and hope it goes away. | |
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| S Sep 27, 2022 at 13:57 | history | answered | the1.9gpaProgrammer | CC BY-SA 4.0 |