Timeline for What would be the next step to handling pranks from coworkers?
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| Oct 5, 2023 at 17:30 | comment | added | Abion47 | -1: OP said they were interested in joining the pranks until they got out of hand, and this new wave of pranks certainly still falls into the "out of hand" category. There's a difference between, say, wrapping someone's stapler in plastic wrap and dumping glitter in their car. One is a virtually harmless prank that wastes minutes at most, and the other is semi-permanent destructive harassment and workplace bullying. Just because OP was okay with harmless pranks in the beginning doesn't mean they should be okay with or deserve these highly targeted and escalated "pranks" now. | |
| Oct 5, 2023 at 12:04 | comment | added | IMSoP | As another, very common, example: consenting to sex with someone does not absolve them from any future claims of rape. Consent is an on-going thing, and if OP has clearly communicated that they find this behaviour unpleasant, the coworkers are 100% in the wrong to continue that behaviour. | |
| Oct 5, 2023 at 10:07 | comment | added | Voo | Just because someone gave you permission for something doesn't mean you can ignore any later revocation of that. That's also true for legal reasons and "he used to participate in it" is not going to fly as an excuse for continued harrassment. Or for a different example that makes this more obvious: If someone allowed you to cross their property in the past, doesn't mean you have an irrevocable right to it. If you continue to do so, you will absolutely commit trespassing. | |
| Oct 5, 2023 at 0:17 | comment | added | Acccumulation | "People accepted you as one of them, now you want to threaten their livelihoods by taking them to HR for something you admittedly participated in." This is rather victim blamey. OP isn't threatening their livelihoods, they are threatening their own livelihoods (and threatening OP's livelihood). You don't get to violate someone's rights, and then blame the person whose rights you violated for the consequences. | |
| Oct 4, 2023 at 18:39 | comment | added | Joe W | Just because it was accepted at one time doesn't mean it is allowed to continue after it is expressed that it is not liked. | |
| Oct 4, 2023 at 8:44 | comment | added | Chris H | It's one thing once or twice, minor things when you're new and others are also on the receiving end. That could just about be OK culture. When it escalates and becomes personal, that's very different, and knowing that's going to happen is the hard part | |
| Oct 4, 2023 at 2:18 | comment | added | Carcigenicate | I had a co-worker who was very social and played off abuse for a few years. Eventually one day, he called me in tears because he had finally had enough and didn't understand why he was being picked on. Showing any "weakness" and the potential that you'll accept abuse is like blood to a shark for some people. You need to make it clear that it won't pan out for the "joker". I'm a large, awkward introvert. Most "prank" and such attempts against me fall flat because I don't handle them well. This has the nice consequence of not making it fun for the perpetrator. | |
| Oct 4, 2023 at 0:51 | history | answered | solarflare | CC BY-SA 4.0 |