Timeline for Should I raise concerns about a co-worker possibly leaving?
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| Nov 14, 2014 at 5:32 | comment | added | Brian Coolidge | @RonnieW, you just effed up his career. If time has come.. Take responsibility on it.. | |
| Nov 7, 2014 at 21:41 | comment | added | user8365 | @RonnieW - I understand you may be in a particular situation where my assumptions don't apply, but this site is to help others gain knowledge from your question and the answers. It's not about just helping you and in this particular situation. If that were the case, your question would be closed as too specific. | |
| Nov 7, 2014 at 20:09 | comment | added | Eric J Fisher | While it's good to have your company's best interests in mind (and indirectly your own) If you believe Joe is getting ready to leave likely management knew well before you did. (While they may not be in the trenches decent managers keep metrics to help them spot problems before they become obvious) It could be anything... marital issues, health issues, some club or organization that Joe doesn't think you'll understand or appreciate, etc. It's entirely possible Joe is on his way out, He could have even said so to the manager directly. All in all, if you value your friendship, stay out of it. | |
| Nov 7, 2014 at 19:34 | comment | added | Joel Etherton | +1: I don't know if it's a culture thing or some kind of warped sense of responsibility, but I just don't know why people can't find a way to stay out of things into which they have no business interjecting themselves. | |
| Nov 7, 2014 at 10:49 | comment | added | phresnel | "... damage to his career", and possibly to health, if he gets fired. | |
| Nov 7, 2014 at 10:47 | comment | added | Rob Moir | @RonnieW. there are many reasons why someone may not wish to discuss doctors appointments with work acquaintences, or indeed anyone except their immediate family. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 21:51 | comment | added | AlbeyAmakiir | "As his friend I think he would tell me it was just a doctor's appointment when I asked him and I would have the common sense not to follow up on the question." You'd be one of few. It's easier to say nothing than risk someone asking about what the doctor's appointment was for. But that's not really the point. There are literally uncountable reasons why someone wouldn't say what they are doing, and interviews are only one of them. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 20:54 | comment | added | Ronnie W | @njzk2 I don't know how to respond other than to say I know that is not the case. There is no reason why Bob would think like JeffO. I haven't don't anything that would merit this certain bonus. Joe had. I think Bob knows I am not looking for a bonus out of this. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 20:47 | comment | added | njzk2 | @RonnieW.: these 2 previous comments (with @JeffO) at least demonstrate that not everyone reacts as you would expect. It is entirely possible that Bob thinks like JeffO (even partially). | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 18:57 | comment | added | Ronnie W | @JeffO "Anyone tells me someone is leaving because of a lack of bonus makes me think this person is trying to secure a higher bonus for himself." Not true. Joe put it extra work that I didn't. I just want him to stick around because I like him. I am not looking for a bonus. -1. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 18:50 | comment | added | user8365 | I think this is sage advice. Spreading suspicions about coworkers is never a good thing. That's why agreements are made about notice periods. Anyone tells me someone is leaving because of a lack of bonus makes me think this person is trying to secure a higher bonus for himself. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 18:46 | comment | added | Ronnie W | "You should not have even brought this up with your manager. " The question wasn't about what I've done but about what I should do. As his friend I think he would tell me it was just a doctor's appointment when I asked him and I would have the common sense not to follow up on the question. My concerns I brought up were suspicions only and I know my boss knows that. If they assumed that my mentioning it meant he was leaving for sure, then they would be foolish indeed. | |
| Nov 6, 2014 at 18:37 | history | answered | GrandmasterB | CC BY-SA 3.0 |