Timeline for Should I tell my boss that I hate my job?
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| Mar 30, 2016 at 0:00 | comment | added | BobRodes | @Malvolio I might have said if you do tell him that, to be clearer in my meaning. Clearly we are on the same page here. :) | |
| Mar 29, 2016 at 17:35 | comment | added | Michael Lorton | @BobRodes -- ah, your complaint is about my diction, not about my policy? If so, point taken. Yes, in real life, I don't mock my subordinates, even in those rare occasions (as this one) that it might be factually justified. If the OP came to me with his complaint, I would actually say something more respectful, but the underlying facts of the situation -- that working with your teammates is a big part of your job description and that description is not changing -- would remain. | |
| Mar 29, 2016 at 17:04 | comment | added | BobRodes | @Malvolio Quite so. And it would be entirely appropriate to communicate on that principle and act on it if necessary. Which doesn't alter anything in what I said before, right? As I see it, if you're a good boss, you set aside the temptation to disrespect your people when they behave badly, because it isn't the best way to correct the behavior. | |
| Mar 29, 2016 at 16:34 | comment | added | Michael Lorton | @BobRodes -- I pride myself on being able to get good work out of even mediocre workers, but one thing that might be un-overcome-able is a dislike for the actual work. If I were a shepherd and an assistant came to me and said he didn't like sheep, I would suggest he might be happier in another line of work. Not wanting to be part of a team -- or insisting on an unearned position of privilege on that team -- means, well, you aren't on the team. | |
| Mar 29, 2016 at 7:09 | comment | added | BobRodes | @Malvolio if you are tempted to tell him that, fine, and you have my sympathies. However, if you do tell him that, then you aren't really being a good boss. (Bad bosses always like to think of themselves as good bosses, as I'm sure you know.) A good boss knows that he doesn't have the luxury of disrespecting his people, no matter how badly they behave. | |
| Mar 28, 2016 at 3:32 | comment | added | Jay Godse | Even if helping his coworkers is a part of the job, and he knows it, the frustrating nature of it may not have been obvious before he started. You still have to validate his feelings, gently remind him that it is a part of the job, and work with him to find ways to reduce the frustration. If you use remarks like "suck it up" or "cry me a river", you will embitter him, and make him less effective until he quits. The alternative might just as easily be a company with more empathetic bosses. | |
| Mar 27, 2016 at 20:29 | comment | added | Kos | @Malvolio I feel there's more to it. If I'm trying to help someone but I'm not helping, there's a problem. Might be their attitude, might be me being a poor helper, might be something else. Chances are it's something that could be managed. | |
| Mar 27, 2016 at 16:59 | comment | added | Michael Lorton | I think of myself as a good boss, but in this situation, I would be tempted to tell the OP to suck it up. His complaint is that he has to help his coworkers. Cry me a river! Yes, some of his team-mates are not as smart as he is. The alternative would be a company where he was the stupidest one. Grrrr. | |
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| Mar 26, 2016 at 4:55 | vote | accept | Andrew | ||
| Mar 26, 2016 at 4:40 | history | answered | Jay Godse | CC BY-SA 3.0 |