Timeline for How can I drop a polite hint to a coworker to stop pestering me with daily questions about my lunch?
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| Jun 27, 2019 at 4:24 | comment | added | Volker Siegel | @colmde "Same as yesterday" is often not the case. But when you first answer with just "Food.", "Same as yesterday" is true subsequently. (And "Food" is a good start for giving terse answers) | |
| Jun 12, 2017 at 14:34 | comment | added | Fattie | The salient fact here is: "I absolutely cannot stand small talk". | |
| Jul 13, 2016 at 15:10 | answer | added | user37746 | timeline score: 1 | |
| May 25, 2016 at 21:15 | vote | accept | 8protons | ||
| May 8, 2016 at 15:51 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/729337982524731395 | ||
| May 6, 2016 at 18:47 | comment | added | user47698 | I once had a colleague who would default to over-socialising through no fault of his own. Once I asked him a very urgent question and he proceeded into a beautiful and gramatically perfect dissertation on how the system worked instead of giving me a direct answer. With his particular difficulties he could not recognise my need to quickly fix the issue, and I got angry and yelled at him something like "I don't care how it ******* works, just turn the damn thing off right now!". To this day I feel awful about how I reacted, which was entirely disproportionate. The moral... life is tricky. | |
| May 5, 2016 at 19:57 | comment | added | 8protons | Thanks to everyone for the comments and suggestions. I've updated my post for more clarity. | |
| May 5, 2016 at 17:26 | history | edited | 8protons | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 4, 2016 at 23:21 | comment | added | MooseLucifer | Reminds me of an episode of 30 Rock where (spoiler) the boss had a heart attack, so he calls a subordinate into his office to eat a steak just so he can watch. | |
| May 4, 2016 at 20:30 | comment | added | Brandin | Sometimes a reminder is all that is needed. "You asked me about that yesterday." Deliver this reminder politely instead of responding to the same question over and over. | |
| May 4, 2016 at 20:07 | answer | added | Xavier J | timeline score: 0 | |
| May 4, 2016 at 17:12 | comment | added | user49901 | You do like the guy but have you gone any further finding out what else you have in common than the same working place? He keeps asking the same either because he has nothing else to talk about or because is a nutjob messing with you; you can do something about it though. Follow the usual chit-chat and add some extra of things you do care, probably you can be the one asking questions later. If he's just messing with you, just ask him why he always ask, I bet he won't mind giving you his reasons and you can use the chance to openly say you don't like it. There is nothing wrong about saying it. | |
| May 4, 2016 at 16:43 | comment | added | Blrfl | "Squid eyeball sandwich and a chocolate-covered, hard-boiled egg on a stick for dessert." | |
| May 4, 2016 at 16:35 | comment | added | komodosp | "Same as yesterday" | |
| May 4, 2016 at 16:17 | answer | added | MealyPotatoes | timeline score: 36 | |
| May 4, 2016 at 16:02 | answer | added | Jim | timeline score: 9 | |
| May 4, 2016 at 13:37 | answer | added | user45590 | timeline score: 4 | |
| May 4, 2016 at 9:27 | answer | added | gbjbaanb | timeline score: 11 | |
| May 4, 2016 at 9:00 | answer | added | Jas | timeline score: -3 | |
| May 3, 2016 at 23:37 | answer | added | Carlo | timeline score: -2 | |
| May 3, 2016 at 22:48 | comment | added | ColleenV | So if you can tell he's trying to chit-chat and just really sucks at it, maybe you could help him have a less annoying conversation with you by cutting him off before he starts the ritual and changing the topic. This topic at this time of day has never resulted in an embarrassing disaster the other 872235 times he's used it, so can you blame him for sticking with what works? If it's getting on your nerves, help him find another "safe" topic. Socially awkward folks don't spontaneously improve - they need some help. | |
| May 3, 2016 at 20:51 | review | Close votes | |||
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| May 3, 2016 at 19:32 | comment | added | The Muffin Man | I used to be this person. Being young, naive and excited about my first real software position. Thinking back to that situation I kind of got the hint when their answer was a single word said unenthusiastically, but I didn't really get it if that makes sense. I think @Richard U has a good approach. | |
| May 3, 2016 at 19:29 | history | edited | 8protons |
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| May 3, 2016 at 19:25 | comment | added | 8protons | @hownowbrowncow No apologies necessary, it is admittedly humorous lol | |
| May 3, 2016 at 19:23 | comment | added | user47639 | >he'll message me via our messaging client just to get his daily scoop on my lunch. I'm sorry i'm sure that's annoying but it sounds hilarious. | |
| May 3, 2016 at 19:20 | history | edited | 8protons | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| May 3, 2016 at 19:09 | history | asked | 8protons | CC BY-SA 3.0 |