Timeline for How to answer professionally to coworkers who tease me because I am vegan?
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| Feb 27, 2019 at 3:22 | comment | added | kayleeFrye_onDeck | @Cyrus using that specific wording might be a recipe for disaster but conveying roughly the same thing with more contextual wording does work. If they're giving you crap, dish it right back but with that message. If they're being analytical, reply in-kind. The only scenario it's unlikely to work for is aggressive trash-talking. A simple, "What's your problem?" works well enough, because it then flips the subject of contention from your diet to them and their problem with your diet. | |
| Feb 27, 2019 at 3:13 | comment | added | kayleeFrye_onDeck | @Lilienthal I'm not the only one who might feel them as hostile, either vocally or in text and due to its subjective nature felt obliged to comment on it; not downvote it btw :) | |
| Feb 26, 2019 at 10:13 | comment | added | Lilienthal♦ | @kayleeFrye_onDeck Advice given here should always be adjusted to fit a particular situation. The suggested replies I gave escalate in tone and directness as you go down the list because they're intended as replies to increasingly rude/ offensive remarks from colleagues. I wouldn't call these hostile but some are definitely rude because they're intended to respond to boundary-crossing rudeness. | |
| Feb 25, 2019 at 21:10 | comment | added | kayleeFrye_onDeck | This accepted answer is ripe with real or potentially perceived hostility, so other people running across this Q&A should take that into consideration. | |
| May 15, 2016 at 19:28 | comment | added | Jonathan Hartley | You missed the one that seems most important to me: "These anti-vegan jokes are quite annoying and upsetting to me. I don't tease you for your eating choices. Could you please stop?" | |
| May 11, 2016 at 11:08 | comment | added | Mark Henderson | +1 - all the other answers put the onus on the OP and basically tell them that they've done the wrong thing by being who they are. Although I agree with some people that the OP is being preachy when they think they aren't, at least this answer doesn't make the whole issue the fault of the OP. I particularly like the last set of bullets regarding making it obvious that they've crossed a line. | |
| May 11, 2016 at 9:01 | comment | added | Cyrus | "Ask them why they feel the need to criticize your life choices." Don't do this. Odds are that they're reacting this way because they subconsciously feel threatened and calling them out will increase the defensiveness to hostility. Simply by making a very different choice you are calling their lifestyle into question, causing doubt and uncertainty, something a lot of people can't handle gracefully. A direct approach of "guys, it's getting old, can we just drop the jokes?" addresses the issue you want to solve in a more neutral way. | |
| May 9, 2016 at 21:40 | vote | accept | MarkWuji | ||
| May 9, 2016 at 15:53 | history | answered | Lilienthal♦ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |