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May 25, 2018 at 23:48 comment added Kilisi @Voo nothing went wrong, solving issues this way is a good business strategy since it doesn't create tensions within a team.
Apr 4, 2017 at 19:22 vote accept HarlyK
Feb 1, 2017 at 20:23 comment added Voo @Kilisi Making judgments based on incomplete data and then going out of your way to escalate the situation seems incredibly aggressive and unnecessary behavior. Honestly things like "Problem solved, everyone hated me" is not something one should be proud of, but more an important occasion to self reflect to see what went wrong. Acts of authority that cause bad mood and resentment among employees should be the last resort and should cause one to think about how to solve problems better in the future or preferably avoid such a situation in the first place
Feb 1, 2017 at 8:22 comment added BgrWorker @jamesqf Quoting from the question: "I know music is really important to her so I don’t want to offend by asking her to turn off her favorite song". It seems like he didn't try, out of fear of offending her
Feb 1, 2017 at 2:52 comment added Kilisi @C_Z_ yes, it's an assumption, which is why I don't say it in the answer but only in comments. The answer is valid either way. But I'm an old man, experience tells me the assumption is correct.
Feb 1, 2017 at 2:35 comment added C_Z_ @Kilisi You seem to be quite the mind-reader, if you know so much about this woman even though you've never met her. You can't just assume she's doing this just to stir up drama.
Jan 31, 2017 at 23:21 comment added Kilisi @corsiKa not my manager, my client, I'm a consultant, very useful for these sorts of scenarios. I get the job done, couldn't care less about being popular :)
Jan 31, 2017 at 21:55 comment added corsiKa Funny they hated you for just doing what your manager instructed you to do...
Jan 31, 2017 at 19:42 comment added jamesqf @BgrWorker: Because the OP seems to have already tried that?
Jan 31, 2017 at 13:26 comment added user56887 @BgrWorker Also, this answer wants to reduce tension between immediate co-workers. If you bring it up to her, it doesn't go well and then a few days later there's a new decree from management about it, she's probably gonna put two and two together pretty quickly, which would likely sour the grapes even further.
Jan 31, 2017 at 11:42 comment added Kilisi Yep, she knows full well that it's not appropriate, she's looking for some drama to spice up her working hours
Jan 31, 2017 at 11:11 comment added BgrWorker @Kilisi fair point, maybe it could be included as a premise to your answer? I agree that if this girl is actually as described, a direct approach could be really difficult.
Jan 31, 2017 at 11:06 comment added Kilisi @BgrWorker because it's a young lady he doesn't know well with a chip on her shoulder and something to prove to the World, that could get messy real quick. She's not playing those things for fun, she would welcome a confrontation, she's playing them for shock value. I'd go to management about the content, not the young lady.
Jan 31, 2017 at 11:03 comment added BgrWorker Why are you discouraging an informal "Hey, I don't like those shows very much, could we switch to something else?" before escalating? If the environment is relaxed and friendly, this could help. If the reply is unfriendly, that's another point to raise with management, along with the TV issue!
Jan 31, 2017 at 10:39 comment added user44108 Or block access (if possible) to the offending TV channels.
Jan 31, 2017 at 10:27 history answered Kilisi CC BY-SA 3.0