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Jun 20, 2017 at 15:38 comment added simbabque You initially say that you asked the company in your first email if they had any openings. How does the friend factor in? That's just a "hey, here I am, I'm awesome and you should consider me even if you're not looking" approach, and nothing is wrong with that. If you know people there, that makes it easier for them to vet you. You could say "my friend told me you're always looking for talent" and thus not be specific about any position.
Jun 20, 2017 at 5:51 comment added Chris H @EdmundReed, as I said, I like to use they for individuals of unknown gender. Others decide differently.
Jun 20, 2017 at 1:19 comment added ESR @ChrisH And I presume assumed femininity is supposed to be less sexist than assumed masculinity? Isn't this why we have "they/them"?
Jun 19, 2017 at 22:16 history edited David Washington CC BY-SA 3.0
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Jun 19, 2017 at 22:13 comment added David Washington Thanks, @Jeutnarg! What you said was what I was concerned about in the first place.
Jun 19, 2017 at 21:57 comment added Jeutnarg I've seen several comments and parts of answers along the lines of "How would this be bad for your friend?" - it certainly could be, even in the US. Leaking information about certain positions (say, CEO) could qualify as a Very Bad Thing. It could also be problematic if the company has a restrictive agreement with a hiring agency or union. These would be exceptions, not the rule, but it's worth noting that it's possible, especially since the question is so broad.
Jun 19, 2017 at 20:23 comment added Stevoisiak "I have drafted the following reply to the company" You may want to remove that line, since the question doesn't include your draft
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Jun 19, 2017 at 18:34 comment added Anthony Fornito I am confused as to how this is a problem, most companies I have worked for (In the USA) would give the 'friend' a bonus, if you are more than 'friends' with this 'friend' then keep it professional at the office, or get freaky in your car like everyone else does.
Jun 19, 2017 at 17:56 comment added TyCobb @PeteBecker I thought it was pretty common as I've seen it at most of the places I've worked for. Depending on the position, the referral could net a really nice bonus.
Jun 19, 2017 at 17:33 answer added Xavier J timeline score: 2
Jun 19, 2017 at 17:21 comment added Pete Becker Some companies offer a bonus to an employee who gives them a lead to someone they end up hiring.
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Jun 19, 2017 at 15:56 comment added Chris H @Jack some people do try to use she/her in cases of unknown gender, to offset assumed masculinity. I'd just use singular they.
Jun 19, 2017 at 15:52 comment added stannius The fact that they asked for a CV probably means they aren't planning on firing the friend. Why would they hire OP if they consider that the way he found out about the opening was illegitimate? It's possible they asked for a CV as a bluff to get OP to out his friend, but, that seems like a small probability.
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Jun 19, 2017 at 14:23 comment added Steve-O @Erik It depends on the company, really. Maybe there's nothing wrong at all, and they're only asking out of curiosity. Or, maybe the company had reasons to keep the position under wraps, and want to know who let the cat out of the bag because maybe they violated some company rule by doing so.
Jun 19, 2017 at 14:09 answer added Philipp timeline score: 43
Jun 19, 2017 at 12:54 comment added Erik I'm confused why this would be a bad thing by the way. Maybe I'm too naive, but if my colleagues are so involved and proactive that they can find new people before HR even gets around to posting the vacancy, that sounds pretty awesome. Your friend should be lauded, not fired. (But that's just me, not her company...)
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Jun 19, 2017 at 10:42 comment added Jack You already narrowed down your friend as a female.
Jun 19, 2017 at 8:52 answer added DDT timeline score: 123
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Jun 19, 2017 at 8:26 comment added Erik Did you ask your friend about whether you could share her name? Did she actually say this?
Jun 19, 2017 at 8:19 comment added DenStudent If you're going for that reply, replace her by his/her. Just in case.
Jun 19, 2017 at 8:14 comment added skymningen How close friends are you, because if you get the job and she keeps her job, the two of you will either have to pretend to not be friends for however long you both work there or it will be known anyway.
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