Timeline for Manager trying too hard to persuade me to stay on team
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| Jan 8, 2022 at 17:04 | comment | added | fectin | @JoelEtherton sure. But if the question is "Is it a hot day in Death Valley or is this normal?" answering with "I wouldn't call it a 'hot day'; you're in the desert," is a reasonable answer. | |
| Jan 8, 2022 at 17:01 | comment | added | Joel Etherton | @fectin: doesn't matter that it's normal. It's still pressure. Heat is normal in the desert. That doesn't make it not hot. | |
| Jan 8, 2022 at 16:52 | comment | added | fectin | @JoelEtherton it's a false dichotomy: pressure is normal. | |
| Jan 7, 2022 at 20:50 | comment | added | Bitsplease | +1 for just giving polite , nondescript diplomatic responses. If they keep pressing, just keep repeating more or less the same thing. I've been in similar situations in the past, and you can't argue your way out, sometimes you just have to keep repeating "thank you for showing such interest, but I'm not interested in staying" over and over until they get tired of the repetition | |
| Jan 7, 2022 at 10:17 | comment | added | lucidbrot | "to keep a good working relationship" - this meeting can perhaps even turn into a useful acquaintance. "I've accepted the other team's offer and am excited about it, and it seems my requirements better match with theirs than yours, currently, but it was great in this team (for reasons XYZ) and I might come back in five years" will probably leave a good impression with them. | |
| Jan 7, 2022 at 8:13 | comment | added | Mad Physicist | Their sales pitch is going to be that you can expand your horizons on their team. For #2, I'd also shift some responsibility: the other team expects me, it would be rude to cut out at the last minute, etc. | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 21:33 | comment | added | Jontia | If you do agree to the skip-level meeting, make clear at the time of agreement that you still think it likely you will switch to the new role. In an email if possible. Do not let anyone think you are 'probably' going to stay. | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 17:45 | vote | accept | c36 | ||
| Jan 6, 2022 at 14:53 | comment | added | Joel Etherton | +1 - I would still call this "pressure" from the manager. The manager spent a lot of time dodging OP's asks, and now that there's a real possibility of OP leaving, suddenly there's progress. The manager is desperate not to have the problem of replacing OP and this turns into genuine pressure. | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 7:03 | comment | added | Job_September_2020 | @AsheraH, Yes, that is a real possibility. I was thinking about that scenario too... | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 5:48 | comment | added | AsheraH | Additionally, if you do stay on in the team, being the only one with an exception can create a whole slew of new issues. | |
| Jan 6, 2022 at 4:31 | history | answered | Job_September_2020 | CC BY-SA 4.0 |