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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

I am working for a project in a team of 5 people. The team comprises of 3 people from my company and 2 freelancers.

I have the role of the tech lead / architect of the team, though I have less experience both in general and in this project than one of the freelancers. He is the type of person that has an opinion about everything, and spends a lot of his time in meetings since he wants to know and have an opinion on all topics.

I, together with 2 people outside this immediate team, are currently running some performance tests on our system.

This freelancer asked me yesterday if he can see the "report". I replied, that the report isn't available yet, and will be provided once we are done with the tests. His reply to this was

"No, I need the report now, this is where the conditions are documented and the scenarios are listed. The results are only useful when the starting conditions are known".

A couple of things: a) I interpreted "report", as the documentation of the results, not the starting conditions and scenarios. It feels paternalistic to be told that it makes sense to have the starting conditions documented.

b) I dislike "No, I need the report now" for multiple reasons. First of all I dislike the tone, since I don't think that it's his role to request that, and second of all, that we have currently 3 people involved in these tests, and we don't need him checking the results.

I have a bit of an ego / emotional reaction to that that I want to keep in check ("who is he to request things of me?"). But beyond that I think that that's not helpful for the team. His role isn't to try and get involved into everything and check up whether we are doing a good job or not.

How do I handle this? Is this an issue in your eyes or should I just let him do whatever he wants?

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