Timeline for How do I deal with an autistic employee who criticizes teammates publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?
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| Nov 3, 2022 at 12:35 | comment | added | JosephDoggie | Like with "Dear Abby", showing him this post might be agood start! | |
| May 26, 2020 at 15:49 | comment | added | user86150 | Most discussions about autism focus on how to make the autistic person react less negatively to lights sounds etc. But there is also making the neurotypical people react less negatively by changing the autistic's behavior and/or educating the neurotypicals. | |
| Aug 14, 2018 at 8:13 | comment | added | allo | Maybe it is part of his CYA strategy. If he does not document that others caused the trouble, you may (now or later) attribute it to him. So he may want to have a clear documentation that it was not him and he was aware of the problem and communicated it (even to everyone), so he is not anymore responsible for the problem. If there is no such problem, you need to convince him that he does not need to fear his manager or other persons who may hold him accountable for problems caused by other persons. | |
| Aug 13, 2018 at 13:30 | comment | added | user71715 | Actually, "Mark committed this code and caused this problem" is not criticism, if true, it is a fact! So better change the title to: "How do I deal with an autistic employee who discusses mistakes publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?". Criticism is usually linked with a judgmental statement, which is not in the example phrase. | |
| Aug 11, 2018 at 18:19 | vote | accept | Mark | ||
| Aug 11, 2018 at 18:18 | comment | added | Mark | had chat with him this week. explained him the issue in a technical way with drawing on a board. was direct but not rude. he was happy after our chat. | |
| S Aug 11, 2018 at 13:45 | history | suggested | V2Blast | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Aug 10, 2018 at 16:39 | answer | added | CodeGnome | timeline score: 5 | |
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| Aug 9, 2018 at 13:07 | answer | added | Tom Zych | timeline score: 10 | |
| Aug 9, 2018 at 10:56 | answer | added | Sean Houlihane | timeline score: 2 | |
| Aug 9, 2018 at 9:56 | answer | added | gerrit | timeline score: 11 | |
| Aug 9, 2018 at 6:41 | answer | added | Kilisi | timeline score: -5 | |
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| Aug 9, 2018 at 3:49 | answer | added | Onlyjob | timeline score: 6 | |
| Aug 9, 2018 at 2:52 | answer | added | G_B | timeline score: 67 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 21:18 | answer | added | grldsndrs | timeline score: -12 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 18:21 | answer | added | Elmy | timeline score: 14 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 17:25 | comment | added | David K | How do you know this person is autistic? Is this something they have talked about and told you themselves, or are you assuming they are because of how they interact with others? If they've talked about their autism in the past and perhaps how they have difficulty reading social cues because of it, that may give you an argument to help convince them why they should listen to you. | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 17:13 | answer | added | Old_Lamplighter | timeline score: 453 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 16:36 | comment | added | Aaron F | "in public emails" - are these emails actually public, or are they team-wide / company-wide? "thinks he is right" - his open criticism is not right, but are his criticisms factually correct? | |
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| Aug 8, 2018 at 15:06 | comment | added | Lilienthal♦ | "need some hints on how to communicate this to a person who is very literal and can't read between lines. How would you approach this?" Directly? Whenever an employee isn't catching subtle hints, as a manager you need to be direct. Autism being in the mix doesn't really matter. So what have you tried before? How direct have you been with this person? When you say "he thinks he is right", does that mean you didn't tell him he was wrong? Have you been softening all your criticism so far or did you outright tell him "This can't happen again and I need you stop doing it."? | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 15:01 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/1027208138431315968 | ||
| Aug 8, 2018 at 15:01 | answer | added | Aaron F | timeline score: -3 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:58 | answer | added | gnasher729 | timeline score: 3 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:52 | answer | added | Kate Gregory | timeline score: 37 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:42 | history | edited | Kate Gregory | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:30 | answer | added | user44108 | timeline score: 11 | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:27 | comment | added | user34587 | Does your teammate have much contact with your colleagues outside of his emails? | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:23 | comment | added | user44108 | To clarify, are you this guy's manager? | |
| Aug 8, 2018 at 14:20 | history | asked | Mark | CC BY-SA 4.0 |