My colleague and I work in different locations a few hours apart. He moved to the other site and now I'm left supporting the old project alone. Initially, he promised we'd both travel to see each other monthly, but now he wants me to make all the trips.

Since moving, he excludes me from important conversations and pushes his own agenda without my input. We have different skill sets, and he favors his own, altering project requirements to suit his expertise and rejecting my contributions without discussion.

He also assigns himself the work he prefers and gives me ambiguous tasks. When I complete them, he demands unnecessary changes, wasting time and resources. This situation is causing me a lot of stress.

The company wants me to relocate next year, but I'm unsure if that will resolve these issues. Should I comply with his demands, or is there a better way to handle this? Any advice would be appreciated.

My colleague (who is more senior than me) and I work in different locations a few hours apart. He moved to the other site and now I'm left supporting the old project alone. Initially, he promised we'd both travel to see each other monthly, but now he wants me to make all the trips.

Since moving, he excludes me from important conversations and pushes his own agenda without my input. We have different skill sets, and he favors his own, altering project requirements to suit his expertise. If he knows I won't agree with him, he will simply exclude me from the meeting or process.

He also assigns himself the work he prefers on our joint project, and will often give me tasks with ambiguous deliverables, and when completed, will demand it redone in an obscure way he sees fit.

Since I am alone at my current site, and he is my only link to the other site/team/project, I feel isolated by this. Advice?

I work for a small start-up and in our department is just myself and my manager who is also an engineer. My company has two sites, a few hours apart. We had a project at site A where we both worked.

We began a new project with site B, and my manager/colleague felt we were isolated when working at site A, so just one day up'ed a left and relocated to site B where the rest of the team where. I had to stay at site A, to continue supporting the old project for a few hours a week and cannot leave.

Since he moved, he told me it wont be a problem as he will come for a week a month and I will go to him a week a month. However, a few months later he told me he could not be bothered to drive down and I will have to make the effort to come up more often.

Since the rest of the team is at site B, my boss / manager wont include me in conversations as he would prefer to go talk to them in person without the formality of meetings. We often has different opinions on subjects, but since he is now remote, if he knows I wont agree with something, he will just leave me out of it an push his own agenda, such as project requirements for example. Then I will just get 'told' and he will say 'im not discussing it further with you'. This causes me distress and makes me feel isolated.

  We both have different skill sets, and he will only want to work within his own. For example, if I am an expert with C++, and he is an expert at Python (just an example - not real), he will bend the requirements to meet his skill set, and as I mention, if he knows I won't agree, he will just leave me out. In this example, he would hold meetings with the greater team, and pedal Python is the best solution, and I would not be allowed to provide any input.

Finally, since he is an engineer, and my boss on the project, he picks the work he wants. We are the only two engineers in are department on the project, and there will be no discussion on who does what, he just decides hes doing X, and when I ask him what he wants me to do, he kind of along the lines says do what you want. But then, if I do something on the project, he will review it and tell me to completely change it. Given I am a senior engineer with 10+ years of experience, the changes are often ridiculous, for example, in software, renaming all the variables to some obscure way he likes it. As we are the only ones in the department, no one in the greater company these requests are often bizarre and time-wasting.

He has odd beliefs and decisions, I struggle with, many - too many to list here. But for example, he likes to purposely drag jobs out, he thinks for example, a design is bad unless its been re-done a minimum of five times. So if we do the first design, and we find 5 errors, he will only fix 2 of them, and we will fix the rest of the errors in the iteration after (Iterations are expensive, and take several weeks to arrive).

I really struggle as an engineer, as I love the company, and the compensation is fantastic, however the above causes me a lot of stress and I have tried to have a direct conversation and he just says we have different opinions - there is nothing we can do about it.

The company want me to relocate next year when the project at site A fully finished, but given the above, Its hard. The only real solution I can see is going up there a lot and integrating more with the team at site B so I am not left out as much but this is a lot of strain on my family. Please tell me if I am wrong, and due to him being my boss - if he says 'jump', I should say 'how high?' instead of questioning it. Advice?

My colleague and I work in different locations a few hours apart. He moved to the other site and now I'm left supporting the old project alone. Initially, he promised we'd both travel to see each other monthly, but now he wants me to make all the trips.

Since moving, he excludes me from important conversations and pushes his own agenda without my input. We have different skill sets, and he favors his own, altering project requirements to suit his expertise and rejecting my contributions without discussion.

He also assigns himself the work he prefers and gives me ambiguous tasks. When I complete them, he demands unnecessary changes, wasting time and resources. This situation is causing me a lot of stress.

The company wants me to relocate next year, but I'm unsure if that will resolve these issues. Should I comply with his demands, or is there a better way to handle this? Any advice would be appreciated.