My colleague (who is more senior than me) and I work in different locations a few hours apart. He moved to the other site and now I'm left supporting the old project alone. Initially, he promised we'd both travel to see each other monthly, but now he wants me to make all the trips.

Since moving, he excludes me from important conversations and pushes his own agenda without my input. We have different skill sets, and he favors his own, altering project requirements to suit his expertise. If he knows I won't agree with him, he will simply exclude me from the meeting or process.

He also assigns himself the work he prefers on our joint project, and will often give me tasks with ambiguous deliverables, and when completed, will demand it redone in an obscure way he sees fit.

Since I am alone at my current site, and he is my only link to the other site/team/project, I feel isolated by this. Advice?

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    "he will only want to work within his own" - What exactly does this mean? Edit your question instead of responding with a comment. You can't argue with the boss, "they know best", even when they don't. Sounds like you are not happy with your job.
    – Donald
    Commented Jun 4 at 19:58
  • @Donald Thank you for your input.
    – user146176
    Commented Jun 4 at 20:54
  • How big is the company? Are you full-time or a freelancer? Is this person your manager, or someone else? Why are in-person meetings (travel) needed at all? Who are the stakeholders in the meetings you're being excluded from? Commented Jun 4 at 21:47
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    Please edit the question to limit it to a specific problem with enough detail to identify an adequate answer.
    – Community Bot
    Commented Jun 5 at 13:27

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If you aren't working well with this group, consider transferring to another, preferably one in your own site.

Working remotely does require a lot of additional work to communicate effectively, for both manager and managed. Not everyone is capable of doing it well. I spent years working remotely, but I made extra effort to stay in the loop, I had managers who valued my input, and I still sometimes struggled to be heard or to be given recognition. If this particular situation isn't working for you, and your manager and team aren't willing to work with you to solve it, finding another team is not an unreasonable response.


You've described lack of design and project management.

"Winging it" is a horrible way to manage and to be managed.

That is root cause of everything that you're describing.

Different opinions are great. Once a decision is made then run with it, don't change up mid-stream. That is what you are describing.

It is about the project not the people, at least in theory.

If you can the project well defined, hopefully that will reduce some of the randomness.

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