Timeline for How to deal with a co-worker who thinks I stole her promotion?
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| Jul 3, 2016 at 8:33 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/StackWorkplace/status/749521535157886976 | ||
| Jun 30, 2016 at 15:32 | comment | added | crush | I'm surprised I haven't seen anyone mention the fact that it wasn't you who stole her promotion, but your boss(es) who decided not to give her that promotion. She's misdirected her blame, and I think that there could be an acceptable way to get her to realize that her quarrel shouldn't be with you, but with your boss(es). | |
| Jun 30, 2016 at 9:23 | answer | added | Surud | timeline score: 0 | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 21:40 | comment | added | SnakeDoc | She's not really a co-worker... she's a subordinate. You should consider updating your question title, because it has very different implications. | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 20:18 | answer | added | CKM | timeline score: 4 | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 16:01 | comment | added | CWilson | "Since then the assistant store managers have been responsible for the shops before I took over" What is the timeline here? Was corporate scrambling to hire someone as fast as possible, because they didn't trust that AM's could handle it, or did the AM's handle things 'fine' for months, and your position is just so they didn't have to pay the AM's more money? If things were 'fine' in the store with that AM before you came along, how have they been for the past 3 weeks? Money talks, even in HR: does the balance sheet say you are rocking the boat? If so, doesn't matter if you were rude or not. | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 13:22 | comment | added | kleineg | (calling the assistant manager Sue) I would actually use the meeting with HR to ask them for advice dealing with the other person. I might say something like "These were all my interactions with Sue, it is unfortunate that she perceived my professional interactions with her as rude. Do you have any advice on how to deal with her as befitting my new role?" What this does is show them how you communicated with Sue, it re-frames their inquiry into your behavior as Sue's reaction, you come off cool and collected and interested in improving your communication skills. Let them draw conclusions. | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 4:47 | answer | added | blankip | timeline score: 19 | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 2:13 | answer | added | David Patrick Donohue | timeline score: -1 | |
| Jun 29, 2016 at 1:39 | comment | added | Phil Miller | @JoeStrazzere: That could potentially be terrible advice. If the disgruntled AM is currently or prospectively complaining about harassment or discrimination, then what you've suggested encourages the OP to act in a way that could look like retaliation. That makes consequences to the OP and the company much worse. | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 22:33 | comment | added | user17163 | Just remember that HR, in all likelihood, is aware that disgruntled employees can point fingers and plot false accusations. It's certainly not unheard of for someone to try to get their boss in trouble when said boss had to slap them on the hand over something they did. Having specific incidents to bring up during this meeting would make it obvious that maybe this employee just needs to cool their jets. | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 20:48 | comment | added | njzk2 | @Anketam please remember that we are only reading one side of the story. (not saying the OP is rude or has a bad behavior, but there are many reason that could explain why that assistant manager might perceive it that way) | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 20:40 | review | Close votes | |||
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| Jun 28, 2016 at 19:19 | comment | added | Anketam | And the assistant manager wonders why she did not get the promotion... | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:43 | answer | added | Old_Lamplighter | timeline score: 34 | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:16 | answer | added | paparazzo | timeline score: 7 | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:14 | comment | added | JasonJ | Does your company use email? Make sure that you have documentation for everything that you tell her. Do you have the authority to discipline her for not following procedures? | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:08 | history | edited | David K | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:02 | history | edited | David K | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jun 28, 2016 at 18:00 | answer | added | MelBurslan | timeline score: 80 | |
| Jun 28, 2016 at 17:57 | answer | added | Dan | timeline score: 1 | |
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| Jun 28, 2016 at 17:47 | history | asked | mary | CC BY-SA 3.0 |