Scenario: A team of engineers has been divided into smaller "jobs" with 2-4 people working on each with the purpose of combining the sub-projects into the one larger project.
Issue: My manager and I have similar personality types where we naturally want to manage what we are doing. This does not inherently present an issue, however, as the project moved forward, it became necessary for me to take charge with my "job" (or sub-project). Due to this development, my interactions between the manager and I have become more confrontational and far more direct. When starting the project, he was receptive to my ideas and methods, however, after I had finished research, prototype testing and presented a prototype to investigate further, the manager wanted to overhaul the testing from scratch to suit the overall project (and its final presentation). I reasoned that the research supported the existing tests and that we should continue in order to meet the design deadline/schedule (making it clear the tests would be done soon after). It became clear they saw this as contempt for what they needed me to do and from then on tensions rose. Within a week, a major constraint had been put on the design which was not formally justified, after remarking that I would need such justification before I could scrap the existing prototypes (carrying on from the good presentation ideal from earlier), it was only natural that constructive communication broke down even further. I have also discovered that the manager is under stress due to issues arising in the other sub-projects that require their immediate attention and effort (i.e. some are moving rapidly others have barely started and require extensive intervention from the project manager), so this is not a direct consequence of previous events.
My Question: How should I (as a subordinate) be communicating and working with the project manager to avoid them perceiving my decisions as contemptuous but actually trying to get to the same goal, and allow us to communicate and work effectively throughout the project?