In our firm of about 1000 people, I am workingwork with a group of developers onin a minor projectcompany having about 1000 employees.
We've been assigned to work with a man A transgender person who considers themselves to beidentifies herself as a woman. She's making some weird demands, such as getting upset whenever we use the pronoun "he" (which we obviously do out of habit, I mean, what are we supposed to do, change our instincts over night?) and she also demands to use the ladies toilet, which makes has joined our only female coworker quite uncomfortable. She makes weird noises in the bathroom, she says, and insists on making weird, unnatural chitchat with her about "the boys" (i.e., us...)team.
How to deal with this situation? We do not want to be discriminatory against an LGBT person, but we also don't want to have to deal with their demands which cause problems for us.
- She gets upset when we use masculine pronouns (such as "he") to address her, which we obviously do out of habit.
- She also insists on using the ladies toilet, which makes our female coworker uncomfortable.
Obviously takingTaking this to HR is extremely delicate, as their first impression may very well be thatthey might think we just don't like LGBT people. While we don't want to discriminate against a transgender person, her needs cause issues for us.
How should we handle this situation?
