After working with a recruiter on an offer (and getting the offer) I got a comparable offer at my current company. I decided to decline the recruiter's offer and accept my current employer's counter offer.
How can I prepare myself for the "I decline your offer" conversation where I am fairly sure the recruiter will ask me why I chose to decline the offer and what were the details (PTO, salary, etc) of the offer that I chose to accept.
Suppose the recruiter asks:
What were the details of the other offer that you've accepted?
Do I say that "I chose the other offer because it paid $X and had Y PTO"? Or do I dance around the subject and say "I chose the other offer because it was better and suited me well" and keep replying in similar manner for as long as is needed while the recruiter persists?
To ask a different way, are there downsides in me providing the details of the offer I accepted?
What if the recruiter asks:
My offer is willing to counter, what will make you accept my offer?
For example the recruiter may ask me what will make me reconsider and accept their offer. Knowing the limits of the company and previous conversations, I could answer that "there is no package that you can realistically offer me to accept the offer", and if a counter offer comes anyway I can consider it.
To ask a different way, are there downsides to trying to "come up" with an offer to present to recruiter, which if recruiter meets that offer, than you will accept it? My mind however is much more firmly on the offer I already accepted, so the recruiter's offer is a losing one. I don't want to drag it on any longer.