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My husband just accepted a job in another city- which means relocation for my family. I need my paycheck and insurance (I am the primary) for as long as possible. My husband’s timeline is around Sept 1st to be in the new job- I do not necessarily need to be there right away but I do need to look for job there and do not want to carry two costs of living in two different cities. Ideally I would like to give at least a month's notice of possible.
With that said need some advice:
-When is appropriate to tell my job? There are some sticking points to this process for me:
From a professional stand point- Knowing that I'm leaving and wait till the last minute (meaning giving just two weeks concerns me. Now this can just be me being me- with my job I wear many hats- my Direct GM and I are the only administrative support for the business- and he is not the greatest “manager” in terms of knowing what to do if I were not there- I’ve given several chances to learn but he is a kind of manager that really could care less. His favorite line is “The Graveyard is full of irreplaceable people” yet whenever I am out for more than 2 days even with a full overview and meeting before I leave I will still get at least 2 calls a day- his first reaction to everything is to go from a level 1 to a level 10+ very quickly. I do not want to put my other co-workers who will be affected by my departure in a bad spot. But I also don't want to resign with a months’ notice and say I will help them find a replacement and they do that within two weeks- Or worse they will release me right away.
There have also been some rumors going around that he himself might be leaving the business as well. I know I can’t go on rumor but that does worry me in terms of my notice.
-From a personal Standpoint:
My Daughter (4yrs) is going for surgery end of July (already have signed absence request form, surgery is out of state so plane tickets bought etc.) I will be out approx. 6 business days (10 total). So I would need to be able to keep to keep working at LEAST until the end of August. Her recovery is going to be somewhat of an issue- she will be immobile in a wheel chair for 6 weeks after the surgery- her follow ups after are one in August and another in September. (I’m not too worried about insurance for September-if I have to pay out of pocket for that Sept appt that’s ok)
Lastly, if I hold off saying anything till say August-If the rumors of my Direct GM are true that he is leaving, what if his plan is for July and then I am screwed right before my daughter’s surgery and then the Board tells me I cannot go anywhere- I do have a signed absence request.
Any advice would be appreciated- Not sure what is appropriate in this situation in terms of whats appropriate time for notice a month or 2 weeks given the fact my boss may not even be here in a month.