A colleague working in a different apartment has the exact same car as I have (same model and color and the only two of the brand at my office). The only difference is the chairs, but I understand this is not something that really makes them stand out from each other.

Now the other owner is a very rude. He will park in visitor's spots, which we're not allowed to park in, and he'll park in such a manor as to occupy two space and be completely crooked. They have even damaged other cars before. All of this while driving a particularly tiny car.

Apparently my face is much more associated with the car than his, as I've been getting all the complaints, rants and threats over his parking. Two months ago there even was an incident where two of my colleagues completely duct-taped my car because they thought it was his. (I had permission to park on the visitor spots that day because I had to carry in heavy stuff.) Leaving all my windows with sticky stains that took me hours to remove.

Should I approach this guy? Should I make changes to the appearance of my car?

What would be the best way to approach this guy? Should I talk to him myself or notify HR? According to colleagues who have talked to him, he has been asked to act normal multiple times but has never improved.

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    Don't people recognize the licence plates are different? Maybe you can ask managment to send out a general reminder to park correctly and not use the visitor spots. (And if you are allowed to use the visitor spots for a set time and task, put up a quick sign saying something like "I am unloading X and will be moving the car at Y am.")
    – skymningen
    Jul 6, 2017 at 9:20
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    I would complain to HR just for the part "my colleagues completely duct-taped my car"...
    – le_daim
    Jul 6, 2017 at 9:26
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    I would politely tell these colleagues who duct-taped my car that if they are incapable of reading a license plate, next time they will be sued for property damage and will have to pay for a professional removal and potentially repair on the car paint. Jul 6, 2017 at 9:26
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    @Dominik: But first the colleagues would be asked politely to remove the duct tape, without leaving any traces or damages, or else.
    – gnasher729
    Jul 6, 2017 at 11:38
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    @Dominik Agreed, but that kinda implies that they duct-taped the wrong car... which in turn implies that there is a right car to duct tape. Which is not the case.
    – rath
    Jul 6, 2017 at 12:24

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Honestly, you should be going to HR over the other 2 colleagues duct taping your car. That is utterly unacceptable.

Now, it's clear from your question that you haven't spoken to the colleague who can't park directly yet. I think you should mention to him the incident, and explain to him that his lack of care with his car is now causing you to suffer. Possibly explain to him that the parking rules apply to everyone. I wouldn't mention his bad parking, but do mention the fact that the visitor spots are for visitors only. Most people will try to better themselves if they see what they're doing is having an adverse effect on another person.

If this doesn't work, go to HR. Specifically mention him parking in the visitor spaces. If he damages another persons car, that isn't an issue for HR. That's an issue for the insurance companies/the two parties involved.

  • It turns out that "HR" knows about - no, really - the duct tape incident, and the same people more or less regularly, apparently, attack cars!
    – Fattie
    Jul 6, 2017 at 13:50
  • @Fattie Not so much regularly as twice occassions now but yes, they indeed know.
    – Summer
    Jul 6, 2017 at 13:52
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    @JaneDoe1337 If HR knows about the issue and does nothing, there may be some legal liability there. I would make it clear that you're not taking this lightly and possibly mention considering getting the police involved or taking legal action against the criminals / perpetrators. HR is there to protect the company, saying something that might imply the company ending up in a lawsuit should make make a few alarm bells go off in their head and lead them to do everything in their power to sort this issue out. Jul 7, 2017 at 9:54
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    I'm considering downvoting this for the second paragraph. If people have spoken to him about it multiple times, I really don't see why another person speaking to him would change anything (especially if it's just a coworker). To me, his behaviour thus far makes it clear that he doesn't fall into the "most people" who "will try to better themselves", and speaking to him directly is likely to just end up being a frustrating experience. Jul 7, 2017 at 10:00
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    @DCON someone that park to take two places in visitor know what he's doing. For me it way enough to know he won't listen.
    – Walfrat
    Jul 7, 2017 at 12:44

The other answers address the business part, but a thought is to put a sticker or something on the back windshield or get like a sun shade or something that will distinguish your car from the other persons. It sucks that the situation exists in the first place, but there are things that you can do to make your car look different. Also things on the antenna that blow in the wind. Anything to distinguish your car from his and then let people know you added it to your car to distinguish it.

Obviously this is a partial solution as you want to address the professionalism issues, but the other responses cover that well, just adding this as you might want to adjust your car appearance in little ways so that it's distinguishable and hopefully people won't attack your vehicle next time.

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    Yes! Tie a colorful piece of fabric on the antenna or something. It's a great idea.
    – CodeSeeker
    Mar 21, 2019 at 23:24

Firstly, it really should not be your responsibility to talk to the offending colleague and ask them to stop being so inconsiderate. You mentioned in the comments that you have 400 people on site - in which case I'm presuming you may have some kind of Site Manager, or Site Services. Normally - things like parking would be their responsibility, so I'd make sure they know what's going on, are familiar with your registration and therefore know it's not you causing the problem. You should also ensure they're going to do whatever they can to find the actual offender and improve their behaviour.

The issue you do have to deal with though is the fact that there are baying mobs roaming the building, hunting down parking offenders. I'd be asking for a formal meeting with HR in regards this, and also to the duct tape as it could be classed as Criminal Damage. In English Law;

A person who without lawful excuse destroys or damages any property belonging to another intending to destroy or damage any such property or being reckless as to whether any such property would be destroyed or damaged shall be guilty of an offence.

I, personally anyway, would not stand for someone damaging my property whether they thought I was in the wrong or not. The fact they seem to be okay with is wrong.


First off, I agree with the comments, let your colleagues know that you did in fact not do the things your other colleague did. If they have problems reading a license plate, maybe advise them to get their eyes checked.

Secondly, I would advise for you to go to HR, and talk to him with HR, and not alone. If there are more people who have told him not to do so already, it's of no use for you to do the same thing.

Make sure HR know's what's up, let them figure out what to do with the problem and if your colleagues pick the wrong car again, make sure they fix it as well.

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    The point is that not only that colleague is out of order, but the ones to call OP out for it are. The behaviour of OP's colleague is unacceptable, but it should not be OP's problem to sort that out (and it does not look very promising, especially as OP is not the person in charge here). However, that other colleagues harass OP for that is even worse. This is effectively bullying. In more serious situations, such gang-ups do lead to drastic miscarriages of justice. I think deal first with the misguided communal wrath, and only then, if at all, consider the colleague. Jul 6, 2017 at 10:15
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    Agreed. The problem are the people who are unable to read license plates and start bullying random people because of it. Those people should be called out, probably with HR. If they have a problem with the parking of some random other guy, that's THEIR problem and THEY have to solve it. Not some other random guy who owns a similar car. Jul 6, 2017 at 10:43

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