Thomas Cox
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I'm technical referent but I lost the lead for technical decisions
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This line destroyed my confidence in your firm's leaders: No more Test-Driven Development and no more unit tests. That's such a bad decision, I cannot imagine working somewhere that behaves or ...

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Workplace is extremely cold: what options are there?
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I was surprised to learn that OSHA doesn't mandate safe workplace temperatures (link stopped working -- see block quote at end). Your wife is stuck with the same choices as any other unpleasant ...

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How to deal with a lying customer?
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This is a question on how to deal with lies. But you've asked the wrong question. It should be a question on how to deal with your belief that a client is lying. In fact, you are metaphysically ...

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How can we promote informal "water cooler moments" in a remote-only organization?
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This issue of bonding is the single most important issue with remote teams. People bond better in person than online, and they bond better when they can see faces than not, and they bond better when ...

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How to Document Grievances?
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Terrific question. Here's a starting point for documenting a specific issue with a co-worker. Adapt this to your circumstance. Issue: Suppose your co-worker makes comments about your culture that ...

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How do I talk to my manager about my anxiety issues without sounding like a liability?
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You've got two intertwined questions: How do I handle my anxiety? How do I talk constructively with my manager about my anxiety? First, tackle the anxiety CAUSES. Most of the time, Anxiety is ...

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My boss forgot my approved vacation, how do I remind him?
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Assume positive intent, and look at it from his point of view -- which does not mean skipping vacation or moving it again. Rather, figure out how work will get done in your absence, and brief him on ...

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Doing work of someone in a higher position
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My friend, you're in a wonderful situation. It's called a STRETCH ASSIGNMENT. You're highly uncomfortable, I get it. Set that aside for just a moment and let's look at this from your director's ...

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I'm leaving - should I give feedback to my manager?
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Your motive appears to be, to help this person improve. However, it's rare for anyone to improve based on unsolicited advice, particularly from those seen as having less positional power. Absent any ...

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How do I deal with my current employer not respecting my decision to leave?
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Great answers here. Let me just add, highly accountable people sometimes have their integrity used against them. Don't let your soon-to-be-former employer use your integrity against you. Sure, ...

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Making changes without stepping on manager's toes
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You have multiple problems. To review your situation: Growth has caused people to take on roles they're not good at. Growth has increased the need for better coordination and communication. Manager ...

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Newly promoted software architect wants to do code reviews of code in progress
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Your newly promoted person is suffering from a common error, "trying to add too much value." He doesn't really have his feet under him. He's looking for ways to be helpful but his helping is hurting. ...

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Compensation Strategy for a tech startup
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I suggest you read the excellent short book "The Game of Work" by Chuck Coonradt (called the "Grandfather of Gamification" by Ken Krogue at Forbes.com). My own approach is to ask each person 1:1 to ...

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I cry easily when confronted or chastised. How will this affect my professional career?
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I'm going to take a very different direction, to augment what's already been said. I suggest you learn about sadness (not identical with crying, but clearly related) and shame (a possible trigger ...

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How do I ask for an approximate salary range for a position from a recruiter
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Politeness and firmness can coexist. Indeed they reinforce one another. Create a short list of firm, simple questions and statements, with an assertive intro: "In order to respect both your time and ...

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Responsibilities, duties vs. achievements, accomplishments in résumé/CV
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The gold standard for American resumes is the "Career Tools" section of the website www.manager-tools.com. Here's the version of their advice that I give people. Background Your resume is read by ...

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How to appear confident while still being modest?
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Wonderful question, and my answer will depend on your culture. If by "modest" you mean "not immodest" then good. (Beware that excessive modesty can undermine your career.) In American culture the ...

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