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I only want my manager/scrum master to understand why it still took 2 days when John said he will help me complete in 4 hours? Pass it to him if asked. He volunteered to take responsibility, so let him. 'Why did it take two days when John said 4 hours?' 'You'll need to ask John that, 4 hours was his estimate, my estimate of 2 days was correct.' It won't ...


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Don't make estimates based on expectations of the future, make them based on observations of the past. When John says "don't worry I'll help you and you'll finish the task in 2-4 hours" bring up the last few times this has happened. Thanks John, I really appreciate that offer. The last three sprints you've been too over-comitted with other work to ...


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Would it be wise to tell the boss (anonymously or not anonymously) or should I pretend I never heard it? Pretend you never heard it. This is not a case where some employees are stealing from the company or something similar where telling the boss may make sense. They are jokes, possibly in poor taste, and you were not present for or a part of the ...


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According to you and your experience, is this an acceptable sentence under some circumstances? It is always wrong in the workplace? When someone says "You are not paid to think, but to do X", you should not take that literally. In every case you are paid to think at least a little, otherwise a robot would be doing your job. Normally that phrase is used ...


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Is it rude? The question you should really be asking here is, is it allowed? The answer is : No. I am unsure whether this would be a misuse of our working email (actually, I have never received such kind of emails from any colleague, or none I can remember). Yes, it will be considered a misuse. Do not use official resource for any unofficial / non-...


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Talk to your boss before the next meeting and ask what you should do in the case that your coworker cannot make it to the meeting for whatever reason. There is no need to mention that your coworker is frequently missing meetings. Follow the boss's instructions if the situation happens again. Normally I would simply tell the customer that it looks like X ...


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Don't do this. The problem isn't really that it's not work related - as you say innocuous non-business use already happens on a smaller scale and is generally accepted, or at the very least tacitly ignored. That's not what this is though - this is mass mailing staff (many of whom you don't even know) on the organisation's e-mail platform about something ...


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John’s time would be called an “impediment” in agile circles. So to move forward without headaches and stressing... Put in your estimate If John says, that’s too high, should be x, respond with “Cool! Let’s huddle up later and we’ll revise the estimate after that once I get your insights on the subject” Go about your day. No meeting? No worries, the ...


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If you're in IT, you are paid to think. The sentence you describe might just be the most incorrect thing I've ever heard in my IT career. No IT personnel is ever not paid to think, else their job would be automated. It sounds like the real issue is that your co-worker is simply not using the right channels to communicate possible improvements, opting to ...


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I like to work here Firstly you need to be honest with yourself.... you do NOT like working there, you don't like the whole culture, you may enjoy your tasks but that's only part of what it takes to enjoy working somewhere. Once you're honest with yourself you can move forwards and make a decision. Until then the rest of your question is moot. It's ...


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Messages which can be perceived as political should not be sent to your colleagues. They have built in that there is consensus on some subjects where there may be none. People with other views will see it as if there is a company-wide policy on those subjects. Would you find it acceptable if another colleague would send round a link to a report about the ...


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This is why I always reach out to the meeting lead before joining a call. If you're the lead obviously get on the call, maybe send a quick email/slack to whoever else you need on the call as a reminder, but if not just make sure the lead is ready to start the call before going on. You mentioned they might not have seen the meeting request:Did you double ...


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What would your boss do with that information? Do you think he would fire them? Would you want him to? Would he have a conversation about the fact that someone overheard them talking, but not fire them? What happens then? Could he even have that conversation without revealing the fact that you're the one who told him? I don't think the fact that you ...


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If your co-worker is leading the meeting, then let them initiate the call to the customer and you. That way you are not on the phone looking poor. If the call is not initiated, then you contact the co-worker to find out why and suggest they should contact the customer. If this happens more than once then you should give the details to your manager.


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Why not use this opportunity to make some more acquaintance and friends? Don't outright reject the idea of attending the party - Go ahead, give it a try. What's the worst that can happen - that you'll have no new acquaintance - same as now? However, look at the bright side - you may actually find out some like-minded colleagues which whom you can start ...


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John is probably busy, so book him for a 4 hour meeting with this on the agenda where he is not busy with something else. Do it as soon as you can, preferably right after the meetings where this happen. If he doesn't have time in his schedule, ask him in email with the manager cc'ed to arrange the meeting with you. If he is very busy, ask him to place it ...


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How should I address the issue and communicate to the boss that I do not appreciate such labeling? Since you have a generic question, I'll provide a generic answer: If you do not like something, speak up. No one is going to read your mind. There's no way you can keep everyone (including you) happy. If you don't want to be called X, just have a private chat ...


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I'm not the type of person to rat on co-workers. Would it be wise to tell the boss (anonymously or not anonymously) or should I pretend I never heard it? I think you provided the answer to your question. If you are actually the type of person to rat out co-workers, and you don't care that they will inevitably know that you did so, then go right ...


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SPAM is actually never acceptable, regardless of whether it is sent to acquaintences in your job, or acquaintences elswhere. So, you should not send any of your proposed SPAM regarding politics, to your coworkers or to anyone else by email whom you do not know well.


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I get very triggered and have started reacting negatively, lashing out verbally. Don't let it bug you in this way. You will both come across as unprofessional. I see plenty of people like this in meetings, but in meetings there is usually someone in control who will put a stop to their nonsense. My advice would just be to decline doing calls with the chap....


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This is office politics, stay away from it. Clearly something is going on and you don't know what it is. It doesn't sound like there is anything to get for you by escalating it - especially as a contractor. Write your concerns to the PM to cover yourself against later blaming, but leave it at that. The CTO I'm assuming that the information actually made ...


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Unless his fix is flawed you should thank him and move on. Even if the bug is in code you wrote, it's not really your bug nor is it your code. It is the company's code and the company's mission is to deploy that code without bugs. Your colleague is doing the company a favor by fixing bugs. It's great that you want to be responsible for all code you ...


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Your team needs to get organised better. Two people trying to fix the same problem is a waste of time. And the way you tell this story, it seems you don’t do code reviews - that’s something you ought to change. Apart from that: The bug is fixed, so what is the problem?


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It seems that your organization lacks a very crucial process - information handling and security. Given that you are in charge of managing the database, it's your responsibility to keep it sanitized. The responsibility is not only limiting the access, it also involves keep the database organized and running (and up to some extent, ensuring that the ...


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I'll give two pieces of advice: Since you're to be the "silent participant", do you really need to be attending the meeting? Mostly, a email follow up (CC-ed to you) would suffice. In that case, you don't need to be in the meeting, let the primary participant answer for themselves for the "no-show". If you're one of the expected participants, and you need ...


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There seem to be two aspects to your objection, one reasonable and one unreasonable. First, it's entirely reasonable that you don't want "silly things" to be a major distraction from your real work, especially in the form of a time sink. But a firm refusal to ever consider making light of what you do, or especially to consider how odd it may sometimes look ...


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This is not a productive response for several reasons: It is extremely rude. It devalues the QA person on a personal and professional level. It does not appropriately convey why the QA person's behavior was inappropriate, which leads to... It could make the QA person scared to do their job and perform due diligence. Because of this outburst, it's possible ...


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Too much depends on personalities we don’t know to give a definite answer, but even if it’s deserved, being a jerk back rarely improves the situation. Start with replacing “jerk” with “coworker” in your question. This establishes a baseline for how you should at least normally treat people. How you are viewed by others will be heavily influenced by how ...


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Most of these answers are so confrontational... Approach your boss in private to discuss this disparity. You don't need to throw the SE under the bus, you don't need to publicly take a stand and you don't even need to make John aware that you have an issue with him. Get some time alone with the manager and discuss the situation: Hey, I'm having a hard ...


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When you are asked why the four hour task took you two days, you just say "Two days was my estimate. John volunteered to help me, but when I actually asked him for help, I got nothing. " He is throwing you under the bus. If this is intentional or not, I don't know. In either case, you can't let him get away with it. The next time a task is estimated that ...


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