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Mumbling coworker

When people are rude to you, tell them to stop being rude. "It's not okay to complain about me just because it's barely audible. I need you to stop. Are your eyes hurting, or are you rolling ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

If you are in a three person team, first talk to the third person. Have a friendly talk in a 1:1 situation, ask for the colleagues opinion on the situation, and explain your problem. Maybe your ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

Yeap, seems like something exactly I faced. I was let go after sometime afterwards because this guy lobbied against me to the higher ups and screwed me over. He is not your friend and this guy is ...
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How to address a coworker's undermining behavior that affects my performance?

Either confront them or talk to your boss Since you seem reluctant to confront directly ("Is there a problem with what I said or do you have something in your eyes?") or talk to your manager....
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My Product Manager Traveling To My City, Should I Meet Her In Person?

Strong suggestion: Ask your direct manager. In general, it does no harm to say "if you'd like, we could get together for a get-to-know-each-other meeting, in the office or over a meal." Just ...
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My Product Manager Traveling To My City, Should I Meet Her In Person?

UPDATED my answer after the OP commented below that the PM goes to his city to be on vacation: You could send her an email wishing her a great vacation, and telling her that if she and her family/...
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How to set boundaries regarding hours of work with colleagues who like to work late

It's as simple as saying "19:00 doesn't work for me, however I'm available between 9-17:00". Don't apologize and no need to give any reason. It's factual and to the point.
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How to set boundaries regarding hours of work with colleagues who like to work late

There are already some really strong recommendations in @Job_September_2020's response. I am going to supplement. Offer that they can of course still email on an issue they need help with after you ...
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How to set boundaries regarding hours of work with colleagues who like to work late

Just tell him he has to work normal hours if he wants to pair work. He's the new person, not you. You don't have to accommodate his timeframes. And, if an issue is in his domain, not yours, then it's ...
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How to set boundaries regarding hours of work with colleagues who like to work late

First, tell him that you have no problem pairing up with him to solve technical issues, and then proceed to explain to him your normal working hours, and your family obligations. Tell him that you ...
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How to deal with incompetent lead?

To convey your message, make the fixes you need to make and, via documentation, make it clear what you changed and why. To any reviewer, it should be obvious the changes have been made by a different ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Reading between the lines of your question, I want to suggest a slightly different perspective. The lead data scientist's technical expertise wasn't checked during the interview (it turned out they ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

The thing I don't see in the question is, "What's in writing?" Is X's status (whatever it is) formally set out somewhere? It may be that he is actually the team lead on paper, but for some ...
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Dealing with an incompetent colleague on a project

If it's causing problems for you then tell your manager that you think the chap is operating on false pretences. Be prepared to job search if the manager doesn't take you seriously immediately AND do ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Been there, done that, many times. You should evaluate the cost benefit - on the one hand, if you do what you're told like that, you're probably not going to receive the professional recognition you ...
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Dealing with an incompetent colleague on a project

Exactly what do you want out of any action you take? If you want to warn your manager that an estimated time is likely to slip, then simply say so. If you want to advise why two staff are inadequate ...
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Dealing with an incompetent colleague on a project

What do I tell myself? It seems that you already told yourself a lot, you've identified that this individual's performance isn't what you expect, and while it's frustrating to have to deal with them, ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

If you're being asked to do a code review from a manager - particularly from Upper management above your regular manager - you absolutely should do it. This is true whether the technical competence of ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

my reporting manager doesn't involve herself in our team's workings and processes. Other Team members don't react to my queries/questions unless I include this X in the conversation. as I've heard ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

When someone you don't work for assigns you work you say No. When they ask you again, you talk to your boss, who one assumes has authority to task you with things. When someone inserts themself into ...
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How to deal with an oversmart/bossy colleague?

(6) Other Team members don't react to my queries/questions unless I include this X in the conversation. This means he is in fact leading/managing the team even though he may not have been formally ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You have already gotten plenty of good answers from business perspective. Indeed: refusing to review will only damage your reputation and career. So yes, you need to fulfill the manager's request. ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

I've been in your shoes and it's terrible, especially when the senior person struggles with git. I have observed someone in a similar situation do a spectacular tear down of the code. He wrote a ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Juniors can and do review code of someone more senior. Either as a learning experience or in some cases someone fresher might have more up to date knowledge of how things are done. I've changed my ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You already have reviewed it: thousands of lines of code, written without unit tests, and scrolling through functions 2,800+ lines long That seems like valid feedback you should give to your ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You are missing a couple of options: Do the minimum amount of work to satisfy this request, make sure that you are not involved in the project, and let the project fail. Data science is (still) a ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You should not refuse to review the work of a colleague based on your role, paygrade, or place in the organizational hierarchy. On the Software Engineering Stack Exchange, I've written about reasons ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Should I directly refuse to analyse and review the twin project of the tech lead? Directly refusing an assignment typically has significant consequences anywhere from a stern talking to to dismissal. ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

To be fair, as a junior coworker, I would have thought that your job is to do whatever you are asked to do, as long as it in the field you were hired for. So, to me, it looks like you need to do it. ...
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What would be good gift card amount to give to a departing senior coworker?

First of all, the gift card as you said is optional. You are not forced to contribute, nor should others contributing affect your choice (that's why you can't see how/who has contributed). How much ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

It sounds like your merge request process isn't working well at all. If merge requests become a source of conflict, they become a grossly inefficient process (because arguing about something in ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

"it would be nice if..." or "We need to...". Okay, not great, but resonable. At our meeting, she revealed that she had held a higher position in her previous job Yikes. Throwing ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

Eight months ago, our team leader and I hired a junior developer for our squad What exactly is your role on the team? From the following paragraph I infer you to be one of the "mid-level ...
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Struggling with Team Dynamics: Dealing with a Critical and Ambitious Junior Developer

Redirect digressions. "It would be nice/we need to...": "Great idea. Open a new Jira ticket for that so we don't forget it and we'll put it into the discussion/planning cycle with ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

If I'm still be if the recipients of a question, and I think I have the knowledge/ authority to answer it, I'm likely to answer without even looking at who else it was sent to, copying everyone so ...
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How to deal with colleague making fun of my decisions

This " ... Also, this would happen during calls. He would stop whatever he is doing and listen in on my call and start laughing or throwing up some random ideas he thinks are better." Has ...
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How to deal with colleague making fun of my decisions

From what you described, to me it looks like you're facing workplace harassment or bullying. It might be a mild version, but nevertheless this is an act of unfriendliness, unkindness and active ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

Seems like you just need a policy: have a point person or persons responsible for customer interactions, everyone else hands off. Regular training, and enforcement if needed, for repeat offenders. If ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

It doesn't matter if the customer even included an intern or your printer-queue in the TO: or CC: (As you mentioned they will add any contact in the hope of getting their request sorted out). What ...
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How do I handle an unclear Work from Home Policy and setting expectations?

Without knowing the scale of your organization, I would strongly recommend against making your own policies without first consulting more senior leadership and/or the HR team. Having policies for your ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

Here's the thing about communication: Nobody knows you've seen and read the email and that you're taking action unless you inform them. I see this time and time again. Boss: "Customer is upset ...
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How to handle an employee that responds to an email he is copied in on, but is not his responsibility to take that action?

If you are not that persons boss, bring it to someone higher up in your chain of command. Then they bring it up higher in their chain of command. Until it hits the person responsible for both of you ...
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