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Should I point out that I'm a woman when negotiating starting salary?

Ok, as a woman who works in the IT industry and has worked as a Senior Software Engineer for many years, my answer is simply Don't bring gender into the equation! I know what I am prepared to work ...
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Should I talk to my team lead about unintentional sexism within the team?

I was wondering if this is a safe topic of conversation in a one to one meeting with my team lead. This behavior is an acceptable topic, jumping to conclusion as to the cause isn't. I would come ...
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How to make interviewee comfortable interviewing in lounge chairs

I would ensure that a meeting room is available for these interviews. Perhaps bump people out of meeting rooms as they could rearrange/or use the lounge. I would do this also because an interviewee ...
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How can I address being paid less than my male colleagues with similar or lesser roles in my company?

I'm a female developer with 10 years' experience (despite my name here:)) and unfortunately this is a familiar situation. I think gnasher729's answer is excellent. The only thing I'd add to gnasher729'...
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Is the term "man hours" appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?

Do as you're doing; call the time period by a phrase that you're comfortable with. Maybe even use the role title - so instead of a job being x man hours, it would be 'x' hours, made up of 'y' ...
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How do I tell an executive that I am an engineer not an admin

Could you raise it to your manager? (Assuming that someone sits at a level between you & the exec, e.g. a head of engineering) A few months in the door & at a junior level, it makes sense that ...
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Is the term "man hours" appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?

Don't chastise anyone for using "man-hours", it's an ingrained part of traditional English usage. Continue to use "person-hours" whenever possible. The laughing will eventually subside. Attitudes ...
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How can I work in a chauvinistic male dominated environment where the women are no better?

There are two reasons why a man at work would behave like this towards you: they genuinely desire you sexually and would have a relationship with you if you were willing they want to embarrass you, ...
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How can I address being paid less than my male colleagues with similar or lesser roles in my company?

There is no reason to assume that the pay raise didn't arrive because you are a woman, but there are the facts that (a) you didn't get a pay rise, (b) you make less than a junior that you are training,...
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How to manage a person who identifies as bi-gender?

Your friend is overthinking this way too much. This is a "highly skilled and ambitious software engineer?" - I think they can figure out the bathrooms for themselves. I think if there are "general ...
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20 years ago, a colleague said I should have treated a female employee differently due to the difficulties of working in a male-dominated industry

I berated her about it and explained how this wasted time from everyone in the room. You shouldn't do this with any employee, male or female. If there is corrective action required, you do this in ...
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How should I maintain a professional relationship with female coworkers?

I disagree with all the answers saying to treat them just like male colleagues. Treat them with the respect that is inherent in your cultural values. I work with many women. I don't treat them the ...
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How to make interviewee comfortable interviewing in lounge chairs

facilities staff is stretched too thin Does your company not have a room booking solution? If so, just print out a piece of paper with text "Room blocked from time X to Y on date Z for interviews". ...
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CEO ridiculed me with gay jokes and grabbed me and wouldn't let go - now getting pushed out of company

You need a lawyer What you have experienced is sexual harassment. You are being further victimized by having your career damaged by this person. You need a lawyer HR will not be your friend here. ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I think you should mention your name change in the resume or something like John Doe (Formerly Known as Jane Doe). I understand the risk of possible discrimination but if your potential employer ...
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Should I talk to my team lead about unintentional sexism within the team?

You cannot automatically attribute that to sexism. Possibly he simply does not trust you and the other two parties are male. Or he is doing it to challenge / engage the other parties. Even if it is ...
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Is the term "man hours" appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?

"Man hours" is a unit for an amount of work done, measured in such a way that (a) it's easy to determine how many units a person can do in a week, and (b) it's easy to determine the cost of the people ...
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Addressing Sir or Ma'am to Transgender or Androgynous looking individuals

Just drop "Sir/Ma'am" entirely and say: "Hello and welcome to tech camp! How may I help you?" It doesn't seem like such a formal environment that omitting that would be too casual. ...
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How do I tell an executive that I am an engineer not an admin

The other answers are also valid, but none have mentioned this idea yet: When tasked with an admin task from an exec, try one of the following responses Sure, I can do that, but can you clear it with ...
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How do you shake hands with women at work in France without being rude?

I'm French so I can answer really easily. If you are in a big company it's really common to shake hands with women until you know them better. If you are in a smaller firm, usually the culture of ...
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How to manage a person who identifies as bi-gender?

I'm a bigender person, and I was browsing Stack Overflow when I saw this. It is 100% okay to ask a person their pronouns, and it would be disrespectful to not ask and end up using the wrong ones. ...
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How should I maintain a professional relationship with female coworkers?

Just try to be "normal" as you are with your male friends or neighbors etc. DO not try to shy away. Speak with them casually , informally as friends. In about 2-3 weeks you will start feeling ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

Background checking rarely happens at the resume shortlisting stage. It usually happens closer to the end of the hiring process. Keep your preferred name in the resume. When a company wants to make ...
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Clarifying Gender in Email Signature

Just replace in your signature "Sam Smith" with "Mrs. Sam Smith" or "Miss Sam Smith" or "Ms. Sam Smith" or "Mr. Sam Smith". Whether you want do that ...
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How to address a transgender coworker and accomodate their toilet needs?

If a person changes their name from "Jake" to "Richard" then they expect to be called "Richard" from then on. If you insist on calling this person "Jake" because he's just "a Jake pretending to be a ...
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How to respond to a passive aggressive implication of gender bias

How should I respond to this? You should tell her that you referred to the male doctor the way you did because he has never introduced himself using his first name. You should tell her that you ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I'm in a very similar position and also work in a management position with responsibility for hiring. From my experience, the fence sitting of employers is a real thing so what I did: Inform ...
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20 years ago, a colleague said I should have treated a female employee differently due to the difficulties of working in a male-dominated industry

I wish I could just say it was ok as long as you treat your male colleagues equally, but it isn't that easy. Unfortunately women receive harsher punishment at work for mistakes and misconduct. I can ...
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