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A peer "gives" me tasks in public and makes it look like I work for him
You don't need to be confrontational here to handle things appropriately - just be matter of fact.
To "assigning tasks":
Bob, thanks for the suggestion. I'd encourage you to talk to [...
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable
I would suggest being forward on your first interview / CV stage and state that XXX has a personal grudge against you and you don`t want to get in to the details due to being non-confrontational ...
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Handling interview with manipulative colleague from past job
As someone who has first hand experience working with her, I'd think your input would both be desired and, as an employee of the company with first-hand knowledge, I do think you have an obligation to ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life
Ask for a meeting with your boss. In the meeting say you wish to discuss why you didn't get a raise as you are unclear.
Hopefully he mentions that you are not working hard enough (the reason he gave ...
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Senior wants me gone, one way or another
Talk to your manager. That's what managers are for.
The behavior of a colleague impedes your ability to work effectively. Keep detailed notes. Describe to your manager the behavior and how it impacts ...
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How can I stop my boss in Germany from bullying me without worsening my future job prospects?
Your boss is abusive. Don't fall for the "many business contacts" trick, that's just an abusive attempt at keeping you from leaving and/or keeping you afraid of reporting his sexual discrimination. No ...
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Bullied via Zoom
This was a private communication between Bill and Sue and you only saw it because she was sharing her screen.
Have you ever made such a comment like that yourself to someone else privately? Now did he ...
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Being workplace bullied - would it be a career damaging move if I sought out an increased WFH accommodation?
In my opinion, you are asking the wrong question as the solution to bullying by colleagues is to document, speak up personally, and escalate to management / HR (Assuming policies are being violated), ...
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My colleague treats me like he's my boss, yet we're on the same level
You are promised your old job back, so there’s no risk.
Since you are in London, the appropriate answer to the question “when will this be done” if it’s none of his business is “none of your ****ing ...
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Bullied via Zoom
I'll go a bit further than the other answers here and say... you're the bad guy in this situation.
Bill did something stupid. He was trying to vent about a meeting going too long, and did so in a ...
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What are the pros and cons of escalating a personnel conflict issue to HR?
Assuming that you exhausted all forms of resolving this between you two - I would advise to speak with your direct line-manager first.
He is the person that is actually responsible for your work and ...
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable
A few thoughts:
Last Friday a friend of mind from the company I have had an absolutely fantastic interview last week, after which I received super short rejection email, told me everyone approved ...
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How to deal with colleague making fun of my decisions
From what you described, to me it looks like you're facing workplace harassment or bullying. It might be a mild version, but nevertheless this is an act of unfriendliness, unkindness and active ...
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My colleague treats me like he's my boss, yet we're on the same level
Your colleague will continue like this so long as you let him.
If he really has no authority over you, there is nothing wrong with pointing that out once he crosses the line. After all, if he isn't ...
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable
I think the real problem here is that your boss knows you are looking for employment elsewhere, and also seems to know with whom and when you are interviewing for jobs. How is he getting this ...
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At new job coworker acts aggressively as a joke
Talk to him privately
Hey Bob, I know you're just trying to have some fun when you {...}, but I find it really distracting and it makes it hard to get my work done. Would you be able to chill with ...
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How can I stop my boss in Germany from bullying me without worsening my future job prospects?
If you take a step back and read what you have written with objective mind.
There are issues with your contract
You are doing more hours/work than you are allowed to
You receive payments in cash
And ...
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Senior wants me gone, one way or another
As a precaution, update your resume and start putting out applications. You want to be in a strong position regardless of the outcome.
Then:
Document every last bit of hostility with an email trail. ...
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How do I combat an industry-wide smear campaign?
Use your professional network.
You worked in the industry for 20 years. You must know quite a few people, and it's likely some of them are in management now.
Reach out to them. Meet up for coffee or ...
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Does being told you're not liked and asked to quit meet the legal definition of harassment under the UK Equality Act of 2010?
I'm Canadian, we have similar laws but not identical.
This is something that needs to be addressed by your company HR department. That behaviour is unacceptable and cannot be condoned.
That being ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life
When the boss told you about "no raise", that's when you should have spoken up. Told him that a lot of "her" work is actually your work and so on and so on.
You can still make an appointment with ...
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Employee's Relative and Theft from the Workplace
Since your are located in Brazil, let's crack the issue down from a brazilian point of view.
Brazilian law does not automatically place burden of a crime on the criminal's relatives. Since theft is a ...
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Handling interview with manipulative colleague from past job
I don't see how you could possibly be "legally" required to note your concerns. Those would be your opinion and I doubt any legal system would require you to give it.
Morally, if you feel there is ...
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Stop engineer from planning "bully projects"
Based on the details in the linked question, your division lead, "Chan", acted against his employer's interests in order to ensure his team continues to be paid for work that (based on the information ...
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Prospective employer "begging" me for a second chance
Let me make sure I understand you:
Your online research led you to believe that the CEO is an intimidating bully.
A friend who worked there confirmed that the CEO is an intimidating bully.
The ...
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Co-Worker sabotages my work life
You have a toxic coworker and incompetent boss. Get out.
There are some very good answers here; however, I feel that the odds are stacked against you, and your best bet is to look for a new job.
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Bullying boss launched a smear campaign and made me unemployable
Don’t know the Swedish law. In other countries you could sue the boss for defamation, and the new company would be asked by the court what exactly they were told (and not giving everything that was ...
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Boss giving criticism about things that are impossible to define or validate e.g "you are not giving your maximum". Is that bullying? How to address?
Is this bullying and what to do?
No. Criticism and bullying aren't the same thing.
Instead of asking for definitions and just challenging his criticism, ask for specific examples of where you could ...
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I am a new employee and HR is picking on me. How to establish myself as un-bullyable early on?
The simplest approach is to completely ignore, not even an eye roll, anything that can be ignored. If you get an inappropriate e-mail, file it, with notes on the circumstances, but otherwise act as ...
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Bullied via Zoom
Did Bill really bully me and create a hostile environment
No. Reasonable people won't agree that sending a chat message to one person about you that is accidentally viewed by several others was ...
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